Who Defines You?

Do you let others define who you are or do you let God?  People can be pretty cruel with their remarks and/or their actions towards us, whether it is a friend, family member, or at times even a church associate.  This doesn’t mean you are the person they make you out to be.  Many times people who are embittered lash out at others because there is an unspoken inner hatred of their own selves deep within their hearts.  It may look like they “love” themselves on the outside, but oftentimes they harbor an inner unrest. 

A good example can be found in the instructions that God gives to husbands in Eph 5. God says that men ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  That means that they have a right kind of love for themselves, a love that takes care of their needs in order to serve others.  In many cases this doesn’t occur because they had never received any kind of “love” from the proper source.  You may be able to trace the lack of affection back in the family tree, but oftentimes you can’t.  The sin of not passing on the understanding of God’s love for us can go back three or four generations if not more.

There is hope. I feel that God has made a way to overcome this pitfall. God says to ‘love others better than ourselves.’  He wants us to be a witness to them that “somebody” loves them for who they are mistakes and all.  We can pass along this precious truth. “We love God because He first loved us.”

  Sometimes it takes a lifetime for the wall to come down and for some people receive that love. God has called us to build bridges between those who are struggling with this problem and God.  That’s why we are called “ambassadors for Christ.”  We have a mission in life.  We are that light.  We are to do this in the way that God has called women to emulate as “the church – the bride of Christ.”

You might ask, “But what if I have been abused or mistreated and feel inadequate, then what?” We need to go to God and ask for the understanding of His love for us.  We need to delve into God’s word and find out what He thinks of us.   If God gave Himself for sinners, why wouldn’t He love us, His own children?  You are His children if we have received the spirit of God.  We do have a Father and Brother who love us very much!

Here are some encouraging scriptures that are part of a love letter from God the Father to us.

Father’s Love Letter

My Child

You may not know me, but I know everything about you ~ Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up ~ Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways ~ Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered ~ Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image ~ Genesis 1:27
In me you live and move and have your being ~ Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring ~ Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived ~ Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation ~ Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book ~ Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live ~ Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ~ Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb ~ Psalm 139:13


And brought you forth on the day you were born ~ Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me ~ John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love ~ 1 John 4:16
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you ~ 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your father ~ 1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could ~ Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect father ~ Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand ~ James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs ~ Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope ~ Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love ~ Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore ~ Psalm 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing ~ Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you ~ Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession ~ Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul ~ Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things ~ Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me ~ Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart ~ Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires ~ Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine ~ Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager ~ 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles ~ 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you ~ Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart ~ Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes ~ Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth ~ Revelation 21:3-4
I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus ~ John 17:23
For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed ~ John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being ~ Hebrews 1:3
He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you ~ Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins ~ 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled ~ 2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you ~ 1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love ~ Romans 8:31-32
If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me ~ 1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again ~ Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen ~ Luke 15:7
I have always been Father, and will always be Father ~ Ephesians 3:14-15

It would be helpful to make your own Bible studies on this topic. Ask for His direction to help you to seek the truth about how God feels about you.  Let God’s love define you.   My husband has been doing this study for the 35 years and has been refreshed more and more as the have years gone by, letting God define whom he is.  He didn’t grow up in a loving environment, that of knowing the security of love from his parents. I have the same insecurities but together we have studied God’s Word. I can say that we have come a long way in understanding God’s love for us.  I personally have overcome many addictions because I have a deeper understanding of the worth that God grants to me.*  I needed to know this love first.  Isn’t that where we all start, as babes in Christ? 

Again, I ask you, “Do you let others define who you are or do you let God?”

                            “Don’t let others define who you are…let God!”

  *See http://powergreaterthanourselves.wordpress.com/2010/12/12/christians-and-addictions/

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