I found these quotes an interesting study for the women of God. My personal notes will follow:
From “The True Woman” by Susan Hunt:
“We’re not talking about ‘Susie Homemaker,’ but neither is it intended to belittle homemaking skills. Creating the ambiance of a loving home and church is a woman’s prerogative and privilege.”
“A friend of mine was helping a young woman who was a major messy. They had worked on cultivating the disciplines of Bible study, prayer, and Scripture memorization. Then one day my friend said, “Now would you like me to help with your organization skills of your home?”
[I would find this hard to do, but if she would ask, I would try to lovingly help her.]
“The young woman was surprised. ‘It doesn’t matter. My husband is just as messy as I am. Neither of us would be happy without our clutter, and the kids would probably think they were in the wrong house.’”
“My friend persisted. On the Sabbath day, the young husband talked with me and assured her that he was quite happy and really preferred things as they were. My friend still persisted. ‘This is an aspect of your discipleship.’ Then my friend marshaled the troops to help the young woman. One woman in the church who had organizational skills spent a day helping her organize her cabinets and closets. Another taught her how to plan meals and shop with a list, and another taught her how to clean and how to delegate chores to her children. Then a woman helped her decorate her home. The transformation was remarkable.”
[I feel much of this can be done via reading blogs or asking assistance from a more experienced mom or women who has mastered the realm or organization.]
“Several weeks later the young husband again approached my friend. ‘I didn’t think it mattered, but it does. I can hardly wait to get home now. Home has become a haven from the CHAOS of the world. The amazing thing is that I feel closer to my wife and appreciate her more than I could have imagined.’”
“The Puritan teachers thought humane family life, in which Christian love and joy would find full and free expression, could not be achieved till the ordered pattern they envisioned –the regular authority-structure and daily routine – had been firmly established. Their passion to please God expressed itself in an ardor for order; their vision of the good and Godly life was of a planned, well-thought-out flow of activities in which all obligations were recognized and met, and time was found for everything that mattered: for personal devotion, for family worship, for household tasks, for wage-earning employment, for intimacy with spouse and children, for Sabbath rest, and whatever else one’s calling or callings required.”
I feel that in my life, without any order at all, there leaves little time for one-on-one personal time with God, family and husband and frustration with the endless confusion of a home not well ordered. I’ll have to admit here, it took much time for me to set my house in order. My laundry room dirty clothes pile appeared much like a moving amoeba on the floor, and I don’t think that changed until they were old enough to do their own laundry. There is so much time in the day, and there are times when we just can’t fit everything into one day. So, my list sometimes took a week to achieve, and at first I would be very frustrated with myself and condemned myself ruthlessly, but then I remembered to put the most important things first, and then all else fell into place eventually. The children had their order of chores everyday and helped me make meals and clean the home. (See my post on teaching children to serve https://teachtheyoungerwomen.wordpress.com/2013/01/29/raising-children-who-serve/).
No one is perfect, and there were days when there just wasn’t time to do a lot of personal Bible study and get personal prayer time in, oh perhaps just a short prayer before bed and first thing upon arising and my time spent with the Lord was reading Bible stories or discussing God in our life with our children. It sometimes consisted of listening to the Bible or sermon tapes while working in the house, washing dishes, etc.
When one has many young children, perhaps working, it can be a bit of a challenge. First things first. After focusing my mind on God, one-on-one time with children (love to children spells T-I-M-E), working together, playing and enjoying one another and husband is a priority. Discussing how their day went and reading perhaps Bible stories or the Bible took precedence over outside activities. I tried to make this first on my list after prayer. I found I had much more time with Bible study and prayer when my children were older or my husband would purposely spend extra time with the little ones for that reason.
Yes, getting our house in order takes time, and one will probably not get everything done in a day, but our goal is to work with what we have. It is a privilege to serve our Lord and Master, because God says if you do this unto them, you do it unto Me. Getting our house organized can be part of that end goal and give us the time we need one-on-one with the ones we love; and in the process, teach our children to serve.
Matthew 25:40 “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”
When we look at this, our chores and priorities take on a different meaning. Our lives become a beautiful picture of serving God through serving our families.
If we strive to become more organized, that leaves time for close personal contact with the ones that mean the most to us, God, family, church. Keep up the good work trying to implement this as a goal in your life; and you will hear the words of our soon coming King:
Matthew 25:23 “His lord said unto him, well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy Lord.”