The Remarkable Women of the Bible Book Study ~ Chapter 5

Rebekah-Eliezer

Rebekah ~ Ready, Willing, and Able

This chapter begins with a discussion of the Godly characteristics of a single woman.  Many of her qualities are a good example to us of a woman of valor (Proverbs 31).  In the Bible account Isaac was nearing 40 years of age, and Abraham sent his trusted servant to find a wife for him to continue to carry on with the promises that God have given to him to be the father of many nations.  What were the qualities that the servant looked for? What characteristics did Rebekah display, which can be embraced by our single women today?

Rebekah’s purity: She was a virgin – “No man had known her.” (Genesis 24:16)

Rebekah’s busyness: Rather than looking for a husband, languishing, moping, or mourning over the lack of one, Rebekah stayed busy serving her family and others. (Genesis 24:15-24)

Rebekah’s hospitality: Her home was open to those who needed her care. (Genesis 24:25)

Rebekah’s energy: Abundant energy is generally a sign of happiness, and Rebekah’s happiness empowered her with energy enough to serve other people far beyond the minimum.  Rebekah ministered to the maximum! pg 55-56

Before continuing, let’s look at God’s plan for single women.  God calls his special servants to a life of:

Purity: A single Christian woman is to remain “holy both in body and spirit.” 1 Corinthians 7:34

Ministry: A single Christian woman is to live her life in a way that reflects her complete dedication to God.  As one who is unmarried, she has the privilege of undistracted service to God and caring for “the things of the Lord.” (I Corinthians 7:34) Every day a woman is single is another glorious day to serve God wholeheartedly and without distraction.  Her singleness is a “green light” from God to go all out in service to others. (pg 56)

Checkpoint On The Journey

Is singleness a reality for you today dear woman of God? Although you may desired to be married, let not your longing slay your appetite for living. …Accept and thank God for what “is” given, not allowing the “not”  given to spoil it. (pg 56)

We also find a Godly characteristic of Rebekah in her willingness “to go.” Abraham then sent his 85-year-old servant on a 500-mile journey, back to where his people lived to find a wife for his son.  Rebekah was willing to go on that long journey to become Isaac’s wife upon being chosen by God. She followed the calling of God to move away from her family, just as Sarah followed Abraham wherever God was leading him. This is a characteristic of a Godly woman.

Let’s consider Abraham’s qualifications for a Godly wife:

She must not be a Canaanite.  (Genesis 24:3) No, she wasn’’t to be a wife of a godless people who might lead Isaac and his offspring away from the true God.

Do we struggle with the thought of marrying outside our own faith? God instructed His servants to marry within their own belief system, their own tribe, their own people.  Marrying outside of God’s way of life invited strange idolatrous customs to enter into their households. Those who did not take devoting their life to God seriously suffered serious consequences.

She must be from among Abraham’s own family. (Genesis 24:4)

She must be willing to follow his servant back to the land of Abraham and Isaac, a woman willing to forsake all – in faith –for the glorious future God had ordained. (Genesis 24:5) (pg 57)

How would you describe your devotion to God? Are you willing to forsake the worldly ways (I John 2:16) and follow God’s calling to take up your cross and follow Him, no matter how long, no matter how difficult it may be?

““And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.””

~ Luke 9:23

As a woman of God, you have a powerful influence on those around you.  One single match can be seen up to two miles away in complete darkness.  How much are you allowing your light to shine at this point in your life?

Notice that Abraham’s servant Eliezer spoke with God beforehand, entreating Him concerning His choice for Isaac,.  Eliezer was not focused on outward appearance or material wealth, but only asked for Godly characteristics and stamina for her to be able to make the grueling 500-mile journey and to flourish in a difficult nomadic life.

Women of God, what’s on your checklist?

Single or married, are you focusing on Godly characteristics, rather than on beauty or affluence? Pray about your desires and adjust your standards to match the qualities that God desires in women, not what the world’s call to modern feminism consists of.  Degrees, high job status, and total independence are not what God holds in high esteem; rather He looks for a true servant’s heart and a meek and gentle spirit. He looks for your dependence on Him to make the facing of life’s challenges more fruitful.

“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.””  

~ I Peter 3:3-4

Imagine the want ad that Eliezer would write to find Isaac’s new wife:

Wanted: The Ideal Wife

Must be physically strong and healthy,

energetic and able to work hard.

Must be friendly and industrious,

kind and compassionate,

generous and love to serve –

and Devoted to God.

After Eliezer’s prayer to the Almighty, he sat down by a well at the time of day when the women of the town came to draw water. Weary from the long journey, he and his ten camels needed water to refresh and sustain them.  A young woman came with a pitcher on her shoulder to the well and offered him a drink of water.  Hospitality is one of the Godly characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman.  Not only did she offer Eliezer water to refresh him, she went on and watered all of his camels!  No small chore to do for anyone, especially a stranger.  How many draws of water from the well would you think she would have to perform to water ten camels?  A camel can drink up to 25 gallons of water after a long journey! Yes, Rebekah went the extra mile in service to a stranger. Then rather than leaving the exhausted stranger, she serves yet again by inviting Abraham’s servant Eliezer to her home to  find rest after his long journey.

Able

How much do we judge the other’s person’s character by our first impressions? Eliezer’s impression was definitely positive when it came to Rebekah.  Yes, he noticed that she was willing to work with her hands, drawing water for him, as well as his camels, and she also came at the appointed time.  Yes, she was on time! She didn’t drag her feet when the work was to be done.  The Proverbs 31 woman works willingly with her hands.  We see her rising up early to feed her servants!  She had servants, why didn’t she have them wait on her first? I find this remarkable.  Her attitude and willingness to do menial tasks.

“She rises also while it is yet night, and gives meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.”

~ Proverbs 31:15

We also see this in the case of Sarah.  When the messengers came to recount the promises to Abraham, he asks Sarah to go ahead and make cakes for them.  We don’t hear Sarah complaining, “Why are you asking me? We have servants? I’m the master!” No, we see her heart of servitude, just as we see with Rebekah.

“And Abraham hastened into the tent unto Sarah, and said, Make ready quickly three measures of fine meal, knead it, and make cakes upon the hearth.”

~ Genesis 18:6

Checkpoint on the journey:  Do you think hard work is degrading? Do you think hard work is to be done by other people, not you? Do you dread rolling up your sleeves and working hard on some necessary task?  Here in God’s word  God praises the enchanting Rebekah.  So, if your are tempted to disdain your work, allow God’s thoughts about yet another remarkable – the Proverbs 31 woman – to correct your thinking.  She “willingly works with her hands….she girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms.  Strength and honor are her clothing.” (Proverbs 31:13, 17, 25) God values women who work hard to serve Him, and the people He puts in their lives.” (pg 60)

“But I’m not strong.  I have a disability.  How can I strengthen my arms, when I’m weak?” you might ask. We might not have the physical strength to do hard labor, such as one who is aged, illness or debilitating disease, but our strength can be one of encouragement, support, a beautiful smile and being there for someone in distress.  There are so many ways in which we can strengthen our arms to do even these things.  A prayer of intercession made for someone, a card sent to someone sick in the hospital or a phone call is a menial task to some, but worth great wealth to God, and it will also mean more than you know to someone who is suffering through a difficult trial.

Willing To Go

When Eliezer states to her family the reason for his visit, to find a wife for Isaac, her parents ask if she might stay just a few more days (Genesis 24:55) with her family before leaving, but she said she would willingly go immediately (vs 58).  Even though she would probably never see her family again, even though she did not have time to prepare, even though life would be stressful as a nomad’s wife, she willingly went with Eliezer to meet her new husband.  That was an act of faith.

Take a serious inventory of your own life of faith.  Is there any act of faith you are postponing – even for “just a few days”?  Any decision you are putting off?  Any step of faith you are delaying?  Waiting may be easier, but the harder path of true faith is the path to greater blessing.  Delayed obedience is in actuality disobedience, and delayed action delays God’s blessing.  Every step of faith is a giant step toward the center of God’s will, and God’s abundant blessings. (pg 63)

So, what can we learn from our first encounter with Rebekah? We can challenge our spiritual and physical lives whether we are ready, willing, and able to perform the work God puts before us.  Let’s be ready and willing to receive the blessings God has for us as well for a job well done! 🙂

Next Chapter:  “Rebekah ~ Tests of Faith”

To Read Previous Chapter Posts See Below:

Chapter 1 “Eve ~ Remarkable Creation”

Chapter 2 “Sarah ~ First Steps in Faith”

Chapter 3 “Sarah ~ Advanced Steps in Faith”

Chapter 4 “Sarah ~ Rewards of Faith”

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The Remarkable Women of the Bible Book Study ~ Chapter 2

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

Sarah – Remarkable Faith

This extraordinary woman of faith in chapter Hebrews 11:11, Sarah, can be perplexing with the different viewpoints that are presented to us in books and sermons and as we read the many accounts in the Bible.  She, indeed according to God’s word, is held up as our spiritual mother if we are respectful to our own husbands as she was to her Abraham, “calling him lord,” a term of respect and honor.

“As Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”

~ I Peter 3:6

This is brought home even further in Ephesians:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

~ Ephesians 5:22-34

I’d like to insert the following verse for later use in our discussions of Sarah and Abraham’s relationship:

“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God”

~ Ephesians 5:22

She not only is faithful to her husband but is also held up Biblically as a woman of Godly faith, in Hebrews 11:11:

“Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, because she judged him faithful who had promised.”

As I read this chapter of The Remarkable Women of the Bible, it caused me to dig deeper into her life.  The author not only takes chapter 2 to discuss Sarah’s faith but also chapters 3 and 4.  Sarah’s faith was progressive, and it took the author two more chapters to explain it! As I said, there are many differing conclusions as to the true nature of Sarah’s life, and it was no different with this book study.  I would like to point some things with which I agree with the author.

Sarah And Abraham Nomads

Her Journey

We first encounter Sarah’s budding faith when she willingly follows her husband’s charge to leave her homeland and become a tent dweller. Abraham’s vision from God foretold the promise of Abraham to become the father of many nations.  Yes, according to God’s vision, he was to gather up all he had and leave his homeland of Ur, situated on the lush banks of the Euphrates River.  I have to insert here that Ur was no small village, but a teaming, affluent city, second in commerce only to Egypt at the time.  They probably had a very comfortable life in Ur.  Abraham had many cattle, servants, and possessions.  He was no pauper.  He and Sarah were very prosperous indeed.

Just imagine your husband coming to you one day after work and telling you that he had a vision from God. You are to gather up everything you have and leave your family, friends, and neighbors, to become tent dwellers.  Many women today would suggest to their husbands that he had better see a therapist before they would give in to such a dramatic change of lifestyle just because of a dream.  The Bible is silent on her response to Abraham.

Many think this because in that day, men were in authority and women subservient, she just went along.  I think differently, however, because the Bible holds up Sarah and Abraham’s relationship as a type of relationship that was an example for us to follow.   The fact that Sarah is very outspoken on other issues and consults with Abraham on many important occasions tells me that Sarah’s silence means that she agreed without doubting that God truly came to Abraham in a vision and that she willingly went along with Abraham in his walk with God to help him fulfill God’s promise for them. (1 Peter: 3-4)

It turned out that Sarah’s minuscule seed of faith budded when they went out from Ur of the Chaldeans. (Genesis 11:31) Possibly with pain in her heart and tears in her eyes, Sarah reacted to God’s instructions regarding marriage.  ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’ (Genesis 2:24)

As always obedience to God boiled down to a faith issue.  However it happened, our Sarah took an important step in faith, and that faith grew and ultimately earned her a place of honor in God’s Hall of Faith. Are you wondering and praying, ‘How can I begin taking the steps Sarah took to develop greater faith?

Try these important first steps today:

Turn away from the pleasures of this world, “Do not love the world or the things of this world.” (John 2:15).

Turn to the unknown, the unseen, the eternal with the heart of faith – “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” (Corinthians 2:5-7) pg 24

Famine

Famine

Most women won’t face a literal famine in their lifetimes as Sarah did in hers, but most will face some kind of trial, a lack of a different kind in their life that causes them pain.  We need to take the problem to God and put total trust in Him. Let’s look at Sarah encounter with literal famine in her journey of faith.

“Oh the heartache! Will it ever go away? Perhaps these words darkened Sarah’s thoughts the day she followed her full-of-faith husband out of Ur. Ur had been Sarah’s home, her life, but God told Abraham to go to Canaan.  Leaving Ur may have been bad, but the land of Canaan was worse! It was 600 miles away from her beloved homeland .  Just when she was getting use to it, then a terrible famine struck, and it was time to move on again.  This time to Egypt, another 300 miles away! Surely, if they would have stayed in Ur, everything would be alright! Maybe Sarah had thoughts such as this.  We really don’t know.” pg 25

Because her thoughts are not recorded, personally I think because of the lack of response, again, she trusted and had faith in God’s promises.  When circumstances in our lives seem to worsen, do we lose heart, lose faith? We all need encouragement to look forward and not back during hard times.  In Chapter 2, the author gives us some of her thoughts concerning those times in our life when we lack something that is truly needed and we are in great distress over a continual trial that lacks a solution.

“Face forward: Real life happens in the present, and God’s blessings happen there and in the future too.

Accept your circumstances – The circumstances of life are one primary way God works in you and works out His will for you.

There “do all things without complaining and disputing.”  (Philippians 2:14)

Again, it isn’t recorded that she was crying or complaining to Abraham because of the mess they were in.  She is silent.

If your circumstances find you in God’s will, you will find God in all your circumstances.

Trust in the Lord – God will keep you in perfect peace when your mind is stayed on Him in full trust.  Isaiah 26:3)

Hope in the future – Hope in God is always the bright star the lights your path in any present darkness.” pg 25

Abraham Talking To Sarah About Talking to Pharaoh

Facing Fear

Sarah was an exceptionally beautiful woman even into her old age, as we shall see.  Many women pay exorbitant amounts for body reconstruction, cosmetics, etc., all in an effort to be as beautiful as we shall see Sarah was.  She was so remarkably beautiful that Abraham pondered it before their travels, that it might pose a problem with the kings or pharaohs  that they ran up against, because, “What if they see you because of your beauty and want you, and kill me to have you?” Abraham talked with Sarah and asked her if that situation arose, would show him kindness by telling them she was his sister?  This was actually a half-lie, as she was his father’s daughter, but not his mother’s.

Notice Abraham didn’t command her to do this, he asked her to save his life in this way.  This shows me there was a strong bond, friendship between Sarah and Abraham? Would you do this for your friend to save his life? The situation did unfold just as Abraham feared.  Their caravan did run up against the powerful Egyptian pharaoh, and he noticed Sarah’s remarkable beauty.  When Pharaoh asked Abraham who this woman was, he said it was his sister.  The Pharaoh therefore took her into his harem.  Again, Sarah is silent.

Was Abraham wrong in saying this was his sister? God doesn’t give us the answer in His word, but He did plague Pharaoh and his household.  Pharaoh did not deal harshly with Abraham as he came back to him asked him why he did not tell him that he was his wife, that he would have done evil taking her as his wife and would have lain with her.  Obviously the plagues were a sign from a powerful god thought Pharaoh. What was Sarah thinking while she waited in Pharaoh’s harem? She must have been afraid.  She had a good relationship with her husband.  What if Abraham’s caravan left without her?

“Surely Sarah wondered with fear, “What will happen to me?  Will Abraham go on without me?  Will I ever see him again? What will life be like as a member of a harem?”  We don’t know, because scripture is silent.  But don’t you hope the silence indicates Sarah’s faith as she sat in her harem-prison, faced her fears, and waited on the Lord?”

“Strength for today and hope for tomorrow are sometimes realized – by you and me as well as by Sarah – in the silent  patience of faith.” Pg 27

The author continues:

Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart. (Psalm 27:14)

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him. (Psalm 37:7) Truly my soul silently waits for God. (Psalm 62:1)

Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength.  (Isaiah 40:31)

It is good that one should hope and wait quietly.  (Lamentations 3:26)

Blessed is he who waits. (Daniel 12:12) pg 27

At the perfect moment when things looked the blackest, God made a miraculous appearance.  Although He was never seen, it was not forgotten. What a scene! What a rescue!

Abraham receives Sarah from Ambimilech

Trusting God Again and  Again

Now, wait, the same performance happened again, almost the same word for word, event.  Sarah was noticed for her beauty and taken 25 years later by another ruler (Exodus 20:9-11), almost word for word.  Again, God came to the rescue.  Again, her faith was perfected.  God seemed to be asking Sarah to to face her fears, and her faith once again toward Him and to, once again trust Him. After all, what had she learned those decades ago about trusting the Lord?  What are some of the great lessons that we must learn in the making of great faith?

Lesson 1:  Pray – “The righteous cry out and the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles.”  (Psalm 34:17)

Lesson 2:  Trust – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding” – or any one elses. (Proverbs 3:5)!

Lesson 3:  Believe “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not see.”  (Hebrews 1:11)

Lesson 4: Wait – “I waited patiently for the Lord: and He inclined His ear to me, and heard my cry.”  (Psalm 40:1) pgs 30-31

Sarah’s Message For Your Life Today

The author comments that some of Sarah’s trials were repeated time and time again.  She asks,

“As you enter your new day, is something in your life a “repeat” problem?  Are there daily difficulties you constantly fact?  Are there people who regularly let you down or fail to follow through?  Are there seemingly impossible hardships to be endured day after day?” pg 30

She asks us to look at a multi-faceted diamond.  This stone has to be repeatedly cut to bring out its beauty.  God can also use the trials that befall us to shape and build our trust in Him.  Remember, in your life you have a constant power available, a constant help in time of need, no matter how alone you feel, no matter what odds your face, no matter who has let you down or forsaken you, you are never alone for:

Above you are God’s overshadowing wings (Psalm 91:4) Beneath you are God’s everlasting arms. (Deuteronomy 33:27) Around you the angel of the Lord encamps on all sides to deliver you. (Psalm 34:7) Inside you God’s peace that passes all understanding guards your heart and mind. (Philippians 4:7) pgs 30-31

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To see chapter 1 of “The Remarkable Women of the Bible Book Study ~ Chapter 1” click here.

More articles and sermons on the life of Sarah:

Profiles of Faith:Sarah ~ A Story of Virtue

Hebrews 11 – Sarah’s Improbabilities

Sermon: Was There Faith in Sarah?

“The Remarkable Women of the Bible” Book Study Chapter 1

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

“Eve – Remarkable Creation”

What first comes to your mind when you think on the creation of Eve? Does rebellion, deception, and an overall feeling of contempt for her because of her choice when it came to her disobedience to God’s command to not take to herself the fruit of the tree of The Knowledge of Good and Evil? I know it happens at times to me when I think of her. Her name brings to mind man’s contempt for God’s authority.  Yet, Eve was just as human as you and I.  Adam and Eve were created flesh and blood. In Romans 8:7, it speaks of the flesh that is not subject to the law of God; and neither indeed was she.

“Because the carnal (fleshly) mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.”

~ Romans 8:7

Adam and Eve were carnal.  They were made of flesh and blood, and so are we.

After Eve Ate The Apple

Would we have done any better? We scoff a bit at that question, but when I think about my temptations in life, sugar cravings, etc. it’s not so hard for me to fathom the pull she must have felt; after all, all of the trees were beautiful to the eye and had fruit to be desired and this one was also desired to make one wise, and it was situated conveniently right in the center of the garden. Also, she had the added trial of Satan right there egging her on. God knew the draw that Satan could possibly have on them.  That is why during God’s soon coming 1,000-year millennial reign, Satan will be bound; God knows the sway Satan has over us; and He willingly pardons our sins if we truly repent.

We do not know if Adam and Eve repented, but God had mercy, killing animals and using the skins to cover their nakedness (Revelation 3:17), which I believe to be their sin. Fig leaves would not do. It takes blood to cover sins. I believe this was a picture of Christ eventually coming to the earth and shedding His blood, reconciling men back to their God. But God  stated in the Old Testament that the blood of bulls and goats can never take away sin, only a promise of a better sacrifice, Jesus Christ could. (Hebrews 9:23-2).  Then, you might ask, why were they thrown out of the garden?  Simply put, without Christ’s sacrificial blood, the power of death wouldn’t have been defeated and there could be no eternal life. So, the tree of Life was made inaccessible to them.

Adam and Eve Cast Out Of The Garden

“And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.”

~ Genesis 3:15

According to the book The Remarkable Women of the Bible,in chapter 1 Eve was remarkable in the “firsts” in her role as the first woman to ever to walk the face of the planet.  She was the first person created to be a man’s perfect help-meet, the first wife, the first mother, etc. Only together could Adam have been complete, in the image of God, and not until both of them were created that God said His creation was VERY good! Notice in God’s word, all the creation days preceding this were proclaimed good, but on the day that Adam and Eve were created, it was “Very good!”

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them.”

~ Genesis 1:27

Eve Created From Adam's Rib

You as a woman are a unique creation.

“Accept your femininity — There’s no need to feel inferior, second-class or second-rate.  No, woman was God’s last, most beautiful creation.  It was only after God presented women that He proclaimed His creation was “very good.” (Genesis 1:31) Adam and Eve were alike, yet they were different from one another.  One was female (Genesis 1:27), yet together as well as individually they reflected God’s image and His glory!” pg 12

You can also reflect God’s glory when:

~ You give life through your physical efforts to care for others.

~ You share spiritual life by telling others about Jesus Christ and God the Father

~ You are the life of your home, bringing the sparkle of laughter and joy to other people.

~ You pass physical life on to your children.

~You can also help your children have the opportunity to come into God’s family by the gospel of Jesus Christ. pg 14

Women's Kindness And Caring

Not only was she the first in the many roles as stated above, including being given the name “Eve – the mother of ALL living,” she was the first to suffer loss, her son (Abel) murdered, first to have her son taken away from her (Cain).  Yet, there was hope, for unto her was given the first evangelistic vision, the coming Savior from the lineage of her womb. A Savior would be born into the world,  paving the way to reconciliation for all mankind. Indeed, she was remarkable!

~ First Lessons in Faith ~

Loss tears at the heart, and Eve certainly suffered many losses.  Just look at the list.  She had lost:

~ her perfect relationship with God (Genesis 3:8)

~ the bliss of sinless marriage (Genesis 3:12)

~ her lack of acquaintance with evil (Genesis 3:22)

~ her ideal home in the Garden of Eden

~ her son Abel

~ her son Cain (gone to a place of refuge) pg 16

Cain Slays Abel His Brother

Yet even through all the loss, the goodness of God shown through.  We can always hope in God! “Adam knew his wife again, and she bore a son and named him Seth, ‘For God has appointed another seed for me.” (Genesis 4:25)

The gift of Seth whose name means “appointed” surely refilled Eve’s empty heart and her equally empty barrel of hope.  Appointed by God, her Seth would not only bring hope to her sore heart, but he would be the one from whom God’s Son would come bringing bountiful and eternal hope to all mankind (See Luke 3:38) pg 16

Eve also was the mother of the first man, whose blood God considered righteous.  Was he one of the first prophets? The Bible does not say, but it does say in Matthew 23:

“Wherefore, behold, I send unto you prophets, and wise men, and scribes: and some of them ye shall kill and crucify; and some of them shall ye scourge in your synagogues, and persecute them from city to city.”

“That upon you may come all the righteous blood shed upon the earth, from the blood of righteous Abel unto the blood of Zacharias son of Barachias, whom ye slew between the temple and the altar.”

~ Matthew 23:34-35

Serving Elderly

~ Eve’s Message For Your Life Today ~

How do you handle your heartbreaking losses?  Rather than plunge into depression, discouragement, or hopelessness, place your God-given faith and confidence in these hope-filled realities:

God’s Faithfulness: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

God’s Promises:  One of the over 8,000 promises in the Bible assures you that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. (Philippians 4:13)

God’s Goodness:  Your lack of hope can never negate God’s goodness.  (Psalms 30:5) For his anger endures but a moment; in his favor is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” (Proverbs 30:5)

Just as Adam was a reflection of God’s glory, Eve was as well, in His image created He them.  We can be a reflection of God’s glory as God transforms our minds into His spiritual reflection:

Resolve never to make a habit of criticizing or downgrading yourself but instead

Rejoice in your worth in God and your likeness to Him

 Rejoice that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)

Resolve to seek a deeper relationship with God and to

Rejoice that He is near to all who call upon Him (Psalm 145:18)

Resolve to walk by faith paths.  You may not understand and to

Rejoice in the promise of His nearness as He directs your way.

Resolve to live each day as a child of God through His son, Jesus Christ and to be a reflection of His glory, and

Rejoice that, as one of God’s chosen, your name is written in heaven. (Luke 10:20)!

Resolve to spend time communing with God on a daily basis through prayer and the study of His word, and

Rejoice in the strength that He gives, for each day and the hope that He offers for all your tomorrows!

Resolve to reflect His glory and, dear one,

Rejoice in His love. pg 18-19

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Chapter 2 – March 26

The Mission of Motherhood ~ Chapter 5: The Discipling Mother

The Mission of Motherhood

Welcome to my daughter’s Mothering book club, her weekly discussion of  The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity.

Anna begins, “I hope that you are taking time each week to read through the chapter and let Sally’s insights sink deep down. After each chapter, I find myself inspired to take my role as a mother more seriously and prayerfully!

Let’s begin now with Chapter 5, The Discipling Mother…

“I had to chuckle at Sally’s description of a visit to the home of a “lovely, accomplished Christian friend”, in which she spent the entire time comparing her own children to those of her hostess. Her friend’s children had impeccable manners, wore nice clothes, were very accomplished and even had great haircuts! As the visit progressed, Sally found herself feeling worse and worse about her own mothering and by the time she left, she had a lengthy mental list of things she was going to “start working on” with her kids right away!

We’ve all been there, haven’t we?

I know that many times, I’ve felt that same pressure when I’ve been with families who seem more “with it” than our family.

As moms, one of our greatest desires is for our children to be happy. In many ways, that’s how we were designed – we have a strong drive to protect, nurture and comfort our children. We want to provide them with everything they need to be successful.

Yet, often times we allow the myriad of deafening voices out in the world to tell us what that success should look like, instead of letting God tell us what really matters.

Let’s go back and look at one of the passages of scripture in which God gives us a glimpse of what is important to Him:

“Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast of his riches, but let him who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the LORD who exercises lovingkindness, justice, and righteousness on earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the LORD. – Jeremiah 9:23-24

Isn’t it amazing that today, over 2,000 years later, people still seek success through these same three areas – the intellect; power and status; and riches?

What about us? Do we let ourselves get sucked into the world’s definition of success? Do we think that if only we can choose the right curriculum or get our children into the right school/college, they will have a great life? If only we can earn enough money to make our children “fit in” with their peers, then they will feel at peace? If our children would display wonderful manners, we could actually be a “good witness” to others?

Sally says:

The reality is that no matter how we try to control these external factors, each of us will fall short. No matter how we try to control life, we cannot make it behave. And pursuing only these worldly goals has a diminishing effect on us as mothers as well as on our children. Comparing ourselves to others and all they have will almost inevitably cause us to focus on the shortcomings of our families instead of progressing in truly important areas. (p. 83)

So, what is the most important thing to focus on?

The heart.

God does not look on the externals; He is most concerned about the state of the heart. Therefore, it makes sense that our primary job as parents is to focus on our children’s heart attitudes.

Sally offers four areas that we can focus on as we strive to reach our children’s hearts.

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Our Time.

Jesus developed the hearts of His followers by spending time with them – instructing, advising them, and modeling right behavior. He spoke with them one-on-one and in small groups. He included them in His ministry and in His daily life.

Compare that with how we try to reach children’s hearts today. Often we value activity (busyness) over long-term personal relationships. Again, I think this stems from our desire as moms for the very best for our children. We don’t want them to miss out on anything!!

But as Sally says:

All of the going in the world will not make us or our children spiritually deep or alive. It is only by coming to the living God and developing intimacy with Him that we will really draw near in our hearts to Christ.

Signing up our children up for every “spiritual” activity or organization may or may not make any difference in them developing a heart for God. Giving them time with someone (that’s you!) who knows and loves God, however, will make a tremendous one.

Instruction

Intentional instruction in God’s Word is crucial to developing our children’s hearts for God. We cannot expect our children to know the truth or how to behave or how to think until they know what the Bible actually says.

There is no easy way around teaching Scripture. It takes dedication and time. No amount of “quality videos” or Bible-themed crafts can replace plain and simple instruction from the Word.

Although it may seem daunting, it can be done. In this chapter, Sally offers some practical suggestions on how to incorporate Biblical instruction into the day with young children by way of storytelling, memorization, and family devotions.

Training

Although at first glance it may seem like it, training and instruction are not the same thing.

Training is the practical application of a learned truth to actual life.

Training involves helping our children to form “pathways” of thought and action and often involves confrontation. Are we willing to risk the unpleasantness associated with training our children in the interest of their growth in righteousness?

There are various methods for training and discipline, but we must always remember to exercise our training with love and patience.

Sally mentions that one of the main tools they used in their family was to teach their children the Clarkson’s “24 Family Ways”. You may recall me mentioning a few months back that Dan and I have used the Clarkson’s Ways in our own family. Though it is not a formula for parenting, it has been a very useful tool for us to use as we try to train our children in the ways they should go.

Guarding

This might be the most controversial segment of Chapter 5, because people tend to be unbalanced one way or the other in regards to guarding their children’s influences. I believe that Sally offers a balanced approach to this topic when she says that young children need protection and guidance from outside forces that would threaten their future growth.

The thing is, there is no formula for exactly how to go about this, especially in this exceptionally perverse generation that we live in.  It is one of those areas where we have to take each and every step by faith coupled with lots of prayer.

Sally reminds us that while we work toward guarding our children from ungodly influences, we need to also give them access to positive influences and also opportunities to have compassion on others who live by different standards than we do.

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Whew!

This chapter is a tall order! It’s almost overwhelming when I think about it.

And yet, I know that if I am following after God every hour, He will provide everything I need to raise my children. Because in reality, they are His children.

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The Mission of Motherhood ~ Chapter 4: The Servant Mother

……Continuing with my daughter’s book study on The Mission of Motherhood.  

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“I am so glad that you have decided to join me this week as we continue our study of the book, The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity. I look forward to hearing from each of you this week as you share your thoughts on Chapter 4: The Servant Mother.

Let’s get started!

We are now moving into the section of the book where we’ll begin to discuss some of the practical aspects of the mother’s mission, or purpose.

With its very title, the first of these chapters clashes starkly with the society in which we live.

Being a servant? That’s not “where it’s at”, people!

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Even though slogans like the ones above are popular, and many of us feel this way from time to time, most of us also have come to realize that serving others does make us feel kind of good.

So, we generally have no problem giving a portion of our time to serving others once in a while (when it’s convenient for us, of course). We even like to let others know about our service projects – posting pictures of ourselves or off-handedly mentioning them in casual conversations.

It’s very easy for us to equate “serving others” with things like:

~ Volunteering at a local homeless shelter

~ Participating in a charity walk

~ Building a house with Habitat for Humanity

~ Donating items to the Goodwill

~ Organizing a food drive

~ Going on a missions trip

These are all wonderful ways to serve! But does a servant’s heart go even beyond these types of acts?

Do these service projects constitute the entirety of having the servant’s heart that Jesus spoke of?

“Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)

A person who has a true servant’s heart is ready and willing to serve even when it isn’t convenient.

Even when there are no kudos.

And that’s where we come to the main points of Chapter 4 – Learning to serve even when it’s not convenient and how we as mothers can develop the true heart of a servant.

You would think that we mothers would know all about having a true servant’s heart. After all, we do plenty of “servant’s work” that goes unseen day in and day out. We know all-too-well about those not-so-glamorous jobs in our homes that no one would even want to take a picture of. We know about sacrificing for the 10th or 15th or 50th time in a day.

But what is our attitude when we are serving our children? Do we serve grudgingly or with joy? Do the mundane, everyday acts of service hold as great of a value in our eyes as the visibly lauded ones?

In this chapter, Sally shares some encouragement for those of us who desire to develop a true servant’s heart in our mothering:

Study the model

Jesus is the perfect example of a servant, so we would be wise to study His life is we desire to go that way!

Sally reminds us:

Not only had He told them [his disciples] that whoever wanted to be first must be a servant of all, but He had also shown them personally what servant leadership was all about. They had experienced the depth of His sacrificial love firsthand and had been changed by it. (p. 65)

Reading the passages of Scripture about the life of Jesus is a great place to start to learn about being a true servant. Notice the way He talked with people, how we made time for them even at His own inconvenience, and the mercy and compassion He had on them. We can meditate on these things as we go through the day with our children.

By studying His life, we can begin to understand the scripture that says: “…Whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant.”

Make a choice

Being a true servant starts with a choice.

I have to choose to serve Christ by giving my time and energy to my children – not just when I feel like it but when they need me.

This means I often must sacrifice my own needs and desires for the purpose of giving my children what they need and modeling for them the depths of Christ’s love.

It means that, by faith, I have already made a decision to make myself available in the routine tasks and myriad interruptions of daily life because I believe it is God’s will for me to serve my family through them. (p. 66, 67)

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Serve without resentment

Children take up our time – that’s the way God made them! Do we resist their demands on our time? If we do, we are setting ourselves up for a life of constant friction and stress.

Sally shares:

I made a decision in my heart years ago, as I began to understand this principle, that God did not want me to resent my children for taking up my time. Neither did He want me to make them feel guilty for the sacrifices I had made on their behalf. I was called to give up my rights simply out of my love for Jesus. If I had struggles and complaints over the years for these issues in my own life, they have been between me and the Lord, not between me and my children. (p. 69)

I love this quote! It’s something I really need to remember. It’s so easy to make my children feel guilty when when I’m not getting my own way!

It’s all in the attitude

We can serve our children by our attitude as much as with our hands and our time. I can really relate to this part of the chapter, because I, too, have often struggled with keeping a good attitude when my children’s’ demands encroach on the last sliver time that I think, somehow, might possibly be my very own.

I, like Sally, have not always clearly understand that the way in which I handle their demands on my lifemakes a world of difference in their lives.

Serving with joy in the midst of messes and difficulty can only be done when we walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. When we are joyful and see each minute with our children as an opportunity to worship God through our serve of Him, our children sense our joy and feel secure and happy. (p. 72)

I really enjoyed reading Sally’s stories about her children and the small ways in which her attitude made a huge difference in their lives. Her son Joel’s comments were especially touching:

“Mom, when you are happy and content and easygoing with life, even if it’s not all perfect, we feel good. We don’t need everything to be perfect: we just want you to be happy. But when you start feeling like a failure and overwhelmed with life, it makes us feel guilty, as though it’s our fault and that we haven’t done enough. We feel like we have disappointed you!”

Sally realized that her children didn’t need a perfect mom, but what they needed was for her to be content and patient with life.

They needed me, as a mature Christian, to walk by faith that God was in control, allowing His Spirit to give me peace and joy in the midst of life’s inevitable ups and dons.

In a sense, they were looking to me as a barometer of how our lies were faring.

This is one of the best ways I can be a servant leader to my children. When I model patience in the midst of difficulty, joy in the midst of messes, contentment in the midst of lack, then I provide them a pattern for their own lives. (p. 73)

Does it also mean that we should never feel exhausted, overwhelmed or discouraged and that we must wear a cheerful mask in front of our children? Not necessarily. However, it does mean that we should realize that our attitude has a very powerful effect on our children. Sometimes laying down our lives for them can mean giving up, for their sakes, our right to wallow in our negative feelings.

By the way, does this chapter also imply that we ought to become slaves to our children and never expect them to do anything?

Of course not!

Like Sally says, “After all, Jesus asked a lot of His disciples. He ultimately asked them to be willing to die for His cause! It is important to remember, though, that they first saw Him give up His life for them. And that, I believe, is the model that He intends us mothers to follow.”

Now it’s your turn!

I would love to hear of one way that you intentionally serve your children to make them feel extra-specially loved.

Of course, as always, you are welcome to share your answer to any one of the study questions from Chapter 4, a favorite quote, or just your general thoughts on the idea of being a servant mother.

I’ll see you next Monday, November 4th, to discuss Chapter 5: The Discipling Mother – and hopefully, I’ll have my post up a bit earlier in the day!

To read all of the posts in this series, click HERE.

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Mission of Motherhood Book Study

I wanted to share this wonderful book study on Christian mothering through my daughter Anna’s blog.  She will be posting every Monday on her Mothering Monday series.  I hope that you can join us in our discussions.  It looks to be a very enlightening book on the purpose of God’s design in our calling as mothers through God’s word.

“The Mission of Motherhood” Discussion Group Kick-off! 

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Welcome, friends!

I’m so excited to be able to study through the book The Mission of Motherhood with all of you! Do you have your copy yet? If not, don’t worry! You still have a bit of time. We’ll be starting Chapter 1 next Monday, October 7, 2013.

I plan to write a post every Monday, sharing my thoughts on the chapter that everyone has read. Then, more importantly, I will invite each of you to answer at least one study question of your choice from the chapter. Of course, you are welcome to share your insights and/or favorite quotes from the chapter, too.

Today, I’d love for each of you who plan to study the book with me to introduce yourself in the comment section below.

Please help us to get to know each other a bit by sharing your name (first name only is OK), how many children you have (and whether they’re in your home still or grown), what you hope to glean from the book and anything else you want us to know about you!

If you are not planning to purchase the book, I hope that you feel welcome to join us, too!

Do you know a new mom or one who could use some encouragement in their mission? Then please invite them to join us in this book study!

Reading Schedule

Here is the schedule for our reading and discussions. Please have the chapter read by the date given.

October 7: Chapter 1 – A Journey Like No Other: Discovering the Mission of Motherhood

October 14: Chapter 2 – Beautiful by Design: Exploring the Meaning of Biblical Motherhood

October 21: Chapter 3 – The Undivided Heart: Committing Our Lives to God’s Design

October 28: Chapter 4 – The Servant Mother: Mothering with the Heart of Jesus

November 4: Chapter 5 – The Discipling Mother: Reaching Children’s Hearts for Christ

November 11: Chapter 6 – The Teaching Mother: Training Children’s Minds to Think Biblically

November 18: Chapter 7 – Strong Friend: Building Loving Relationships with Our Children

November 25: Chapter 8 – Gardener of Souls: Cultivating and Enriching Our Children’s Lives

December 2: Chapter 9 – Keeper of the Domain: Embracing God’s Call to Home-Making

December 9 : Chapter 10 – The Creative Mother: Opening Windows to God’s Artistry and Greatness

December 16: Chapter 11– The Ministering Mother: Bringing God’s Purposes into Our Homes and Beyond

December 23: Chapter 12 – The Faithful Mother: Finishing the Journey with Endurance and Grace

Meet Sally

I want to share a short video of Sally introducing her own online Mission of Motherhood Book club (from back in 2012) so you can have her voice in mind as you’re reading through the book. As we study through the book, I will be sharing more of Sally’s videos that go along with each chapter.

Meet Sally through Introduction video Here.

Book Giveaway

I would like to give away one copy of The Mission of Motherhood to one of my readers (you choose print or digital). If you’d like to enter my giveaway, just let me know in the comment section below. I will announce the winner on Monday when we begin Chapter 1.

I look forward to hearing from each and every one of you who plan to join me in this study.  Please remember to introduce yourself in the comment section! 🙂 [You can do this on her blog page or here].

You can find many different posts on mothering and Christian living also on my daughter’s blog here at
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Look Them In The Eyes

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A Sabbath Reminder

God said “Let there be” when creating all of what we see on earth.  There was much to be done throughout the week, much to accomplish, just as mothers have a continual list of “to do” through the week.  It’s a tough demanding job. A mom has the privilege of discipling her beautiful gifts of God, yet it takes its toll on us because of the continual tending.  On the seventh day, the day God rested, we can stop and reflect on what God has given us, that is the beauty of the relationships we have created with our children.

Through His creation, there is no record of God breathing into its “nostrils” the breath of life personally.  I would presume that when forming man, He stooped down from heaven and after breathing His breath into man, He looked directly into his eyes.  Yes, one of the first things He did was begin a relationship with man through face-to-face contact. 

There is something so special concerning eye contact that supercedes any conventional spoken word.  One can be surrounded by a whole room of people and still feel alone, but when someone stops and looks you in the eyes, we “know” we’re important enough to them to look deeply into our souls.  It takes time.  It’s a part of showing them we truly care.

If we have children, bend down. Hold them at shoulder level.  Look them in the eyes.  Forget about the stress of the world and tell them they are special to you. Notice, how their demeanor changes. You will have touched the soul of a child, which is their heart.  We seem to know this naturally when our children are babies.  We do this continually, but as they grow, somehow we feel they no longer yearn for this contact.  But they still need it desperately and, in fact, throughout their entire lives.

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No matter how busy, we need to follow God’s example and love them as He loves us.  “Breath into them,” i.e., look into their eyes.

We can also do this with others, that is, not our own children.  How do we deal with others we love?  Are we too busy to forget to look others straight in the eyes and find their soul to let them know we are there for them and see them as God sees them?

In an impersonal, busy world, we all long for personal eye contact. Is there anyone really listening?  When we disciple our children, if we don’t connect with them, they’ll find others.  Do we want to be their “connection” while they grow or someone else’s?

Let’s follow God’s example today.  Let’s stoop down and look them in the eyes. Tell them how much we care, and they are as special to us as to God. There are great blessings ahead for us if we create lasting relationships with others in this way.

Let’s “Look them in the eyes.”

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Find out how eagerly God desires you to  be in His family:

http://www.ucg.org/booklet/what-your-destiny/

A Ministry Mindset Means Being Inconvenienced

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I felt Nancy Leigh Demoss wrote an excellent post that would follow up on my last post concerning “You Deserve A Break Today.” 

https://teachtheyoungerwomen.wordpress.com/2013/08/11/you-deserve-a-break-today/

While reading this account Matthew a few years back, this example of Christ’s ministry really spoke to me as a Christian woman.  I came to the same conclusion, but she has written it better than I could have.  So, I leave you with my thoughts in her words.  This example is not only for moms, but for all women wanting to serve God with the heart of Jesus Christ.


When he went ashore he saw a great crowd, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick. —Matthew 14:14 ESV

In Matthew 15:29, we find Jesus trying to rest on a mountainside. He barely sat down when a crowd of people came to Him looking to be healed. How did He respond? He healed them.

When Jesus received word that John the Baptist, had been killed, He tried to grieve alone. But crowds of people followed Him and begged for His attention. Scripture tells us that instead of hiding in His grief, He had compassion and healed the sick in the crowd .  (Matthew 14:13–14).

On the night before Jesus was betrayed, He didn’t hide out. He didn’t run away. He spent the evening with His disciples. He even took the time to serve them by washing the mud from their feet (John 13:1–17).

If we look closely, we find an interesting pattern. We know that Jesus spent His time on earth serving others. But have you ever considered how often He ministered when it was inconvenient?

He served others when He was tired.

He served others when He’d have rather been alone. He served others when He was sad. He served others when He’d been serving non-stop for days and days. He served others when things went terribly wrong in His own life. He even served others when He knew His own death was right around the corner.

I am deeply challenged by this truth. You see, I don’t mind serving others when it’s convenient for me. I like to help out when it works into my schedule or fits into my agenda for the day. But there are lots of times when serving others is inconvenient. This seems especially true with my family. I’m tired. I’m stressed. I’ve got more important things to do than to meet the needs of those around me. Under those circumstances, I feel justified in giving priority to my own needs and temporarily ignoring the needs of others.

But this isn’t how Jesus lived. It isn’t how Jesus served. And it isn’t what He wants from you and me.

The reality is, serving others requires sacrifice. If we only do it when it’s convenient, we’re missing the point.

What’s keeping you from serving like Jesus? Will you let Him inconvenience you today?

Action Step: Go above and beyond.

Go above and beyond in service to your family today.  Make their favorite meals, play their favorite games, do something extra special for each family member. Obviously, this isn’t a pace that you can keep every day, but for just today raise the bar in service at home.

A Mom’s Prayer

“Jesus, thank You for Your example of service when it is inconvenient. Help me to value people over comfort. Give me opportunities to serve my family in Your name today.”

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Does Being Organized Matter?

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I found these quotes an interesting study for the women of God.  My personal notes will follow:

From “The True Woman” by Susan Hunt:

“We’re not talking about ‘Susie Homemaker,’ but neither is it intended to belittle homemaking skills.  Creating the ambiance of a loving home and church is a woman’s prerogative and privilege.”

“A friend of mine was helping a young woman who was a major messy.  They had worked on cultivating the disciplines of Bible study, prayer, and Scripture memorization.  Then one day my friend said, “Now would you like me to help with your organization skills of your home?”

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[I would find this hard to do, but if she would ask, I would try to lovingly help her.]

“The young woman was surprised.  ‘It doesn’t matter.  My husband is just as messy as I am.  Neither of us would be happy without our clutter, and the kids would probably think they were in the wrong house.’”

“My friend persisted.  On the Sabbath day, the young husband talked with me and assured her that he was quite happy and really preferred things as they were.  My friend still persisted.  ‘This is an aspect of your discipleship.’  Then my friend marshaled the troops to help the young woman.  One woman in the church who had organizational skills spent a day helping her organize her cabinets and closets.  Another taught her how to plan meals and shop with a list, and another taught her how to clean and how to delegate chores to her children.  Then a woman helped her decorate her home.  The transformation was remarkable.”

[I feel much of this can be done via reading blogs or asking assistance from a more experienced mom or women who has mastered the realm or organization.]

“Several weeks later the young husband again approached my friend.  ‘I didn’t think it mattered, but it does.  I can hardly wait to get home now.  Home has become a haven from the CHAOS of the world.  The amazing thing is that I feel closer to my wife and appreciate her more than I could have imagined.’”

“The Puritan teachers thought humane family life, in which Christian love and joy would find full and free expression, could not be achieved till the ordered pattern they envisioned –the regular authority-structure and daily routine – had been firmly established.  Their passion to please God expressed itself in an ardor for order; their vision of the good and Godly life was of a planned, well-thought-out flow of activities in which all obligations were recognized and met, and time was found for everything that mattered: for personal devotion, for family worship, for household tasks, for wage-earning employment, for intimacy with spouse and children, for Sabbath rest, and whatever else one’s calling or callings required.”

I feel that in my life, without any order at all, there leaves little time for one-on-one personal time with God, family and husband and frustration with the endless confusion of a home not well ordered.  I’ll have to admit here, it took much time for me to set my house in order.  My laundry room dirty clothes pile appeared much like a moving amoeba on the floor, and I don’t think that changed until they were old enough to do their own laundry.  There is so much time in the day, and there are times when we just can’t fit everything into one day.  So, my list sometimes took a week to achieve, and at first I would be very frustrated with myself and condemned myself ruthlessly, but then I remembered to put the most important things first, and then all else fell into place eventually.  The children had their order of chores everyday and helped me make meals and clean the home.  (See my post on teaching children to serve https://teachtheyoungerwomen.wordpress.com/2013/01/29/raising-children-who-serve/).

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No one is perfect, and there were days when there just wasn’t time to do a lot of personal Bible study and get personal prayer time in, oh perhaps just a short prayer before bed and first thing upon arising and my time spent with the Lord was reading Bible stories or discussing God in our life with our children. It sometimes consisted of listening to the Bible or sermon tapes while working in the house, washing dishes, etc.

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When one has many young children, perhaps working, it can be a bit of a challenge.  First things first.  After focusing my mind on God, one-on-one time with children (love to children spells T-I-M-E), working together, playing and enjoying one another and husband is a priority.  Discussing how their day went and reading perhaps Bible stories or the Bible took precedence over outside activities.  I tried to make this first on my list after prayer. I found I had much more time with Bible study and prayer when my children were older or my husband would purposely spend extra time with the little ones for that reason.

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Yes, getting our house in order takes time, and one will probably not get everything done in a day, but our goal is to work with what we have.  It is a privilege to serve our Lord and Master, because God says if you do this unto them, you do it unto Me. Getting our house organized can be part of that end goal and give us the time we need one-on-one with the ones we love; and in the process, teach our children to serve.

Matthew 25:40 “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”

When we look at this, our chores and priorities take on a different meaning.  Our lives become a beautiful picture of serving God through serving our families.

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If we strive to become more organized, that leaves time for close personal contact with the ones that mean the most to us, God, family, church.  Keep up the good work trying to implement this as a goal in your life; and you will hear the words of our soon coming King:

Matthew 25:23 “His lord said unto him, well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy Lord.”

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Mothering Monday: Teaching Respect for the Elderly

This is one of my daughter’s posts. We involved our children in many activities to help them learn the value of getting to know and serve the elderly.

It’s the very heart of God for us to visit the “fatherless and widows in their affliction,” for this is true religion.  To have the mind of God is a virtuous woman’s most prized endeavors.

James 1:27 “Religious observance which is pure and spotless in the eyes of God our Father is this–to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself uncontaminated by the world.”

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“You shall rise before the gray-headed
and honor the presence of an old man,
and fear your God: I am the LORD” 

Leviticus 19:32

One of the legacies passed on to me by my parents was respect for elderly people. In today’s society where older people are often seen as irrelevant at best and useless at worst, it has become very important to me that I find a way to instill this same value into my own children. I’ve been reviewing in my mind the ways in which my parents taught us that old age was not something to disdain, but rather to honor. I’d like to share them here as a way of reminding myself of these practical ways so that I may cultivate this value in our family.

“Cease listening to instruction, my son,
And you will stray from the words of knowledge…”  

Proverbs 19:27

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