Psalms of a Woman

Parting of the Red Sea

PASSOVER PRAYER

You brought us out of Egypt

Yet sin is in us still

Cleanse us now from secret faults

And help us search Your will

 

For You delivered us from sin

A price was sorely paid

Your only Son You sacrificed

Our stripes were on Him laid

 

Help us now to not look back

On Egypt to desire

The worldly ways that call to us

Each day that does transpire

 

Help us be like Miriam

Who sang a joyful song

When the sea was driven back

You led the mighty throng

 

So, help us now to not look back

To run the race You’ve given

Forward as we travel on

For grace has now been given

~ April 2014

Miriam Singing For Joy

 “Who can understand his errors? Cleanse thou me from secret faults.”

~ Psalms 19:12

“But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.”

~ Romans 7:23

“And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues.”

~ Revelation 18:4

“Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.”

~ James 4:4

 “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.”

~ 1 John 2:15

“Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.”

~ Matthew 6:10

 “He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done.”

~ Matthew 26:42

“And Miriam the prophetess, the sister of Aaron, took a timbrel in her hand; and all the women went out after her with timbrels and with dances.”

Exodus 15:20

“And Miriam answered them, Sing ye to the LORD, for he hath triumphed gloriously; the horse and his rider hath he thrown into the sea.”

Exodus 15:21

 “Therefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.”

~ Hebrews 12:1

“Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

~ Hebrews 12:2

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The Passover ~ When We Can’t Forgive Ourselves

Perfectionist Depression

Women who are perfectionists, even for the most noble of reasons, that of pleasing God, can often fall into discouragement and even depression because they have a hard time forgiving themselves for mistakes made.  I know.  I was one of them.  We have a checklist each day.  We check it twice.  We check it more than twice.  How about all day long? We have our daily checklist of what the perfect woman, wife, mother, serving member of a church, and/or good neighbor is, and when we slip up….. Well, if they could invent an invisible flog only to be felt by ourselves, I think we would be one of the first ones to run out and purchase one.

Not being able to forgive oneself for mistakes can literally cripple your joy and make life miserable.  The simple truth is, my dear daughters in Christ, WE CAN’T! That’s what Christ’s sacrifice is for.  We’re simply not big enough or powerful enough to do it.  ALL have sinned.  We ALL are growing.  We’re God’s children, and when we put forth our best effort, though not perfect, God is pleased. Remember the verse “He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.” I might add here, “not who are diligently perfect in everything.” Somehow, we tend to forget that verse and concentrate on our flaws and imperfections.

“But without faith it is impossible to please Him: for he that comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him.” 

~ Hebrews 11:6

I’d like to consider my recent post on Abraham’s wife Sarah.  She was faithful enough to be written in the Hall of Fame in the faith chapter in Hebrews 11, considered a mother of faith, even though she suffered from many human weaknesses.

Yes, we can forget that it is faith in God’s ability to forgive that frees us from guilt. When Passover season comes around, many women who constantly question their worth, also tend to come to the Passover services with their heads hanging down, feeling that we have too much baggage to be forgiven.  God, however, says otherwise.  Passover is a time to remember that He, the Creator of all living, Creator of the entire universe is looking down on us with eyes that seek to willingly forgive us. If we come to Him with a humble attitude He is quick to praise us for jobs well done.

I have a feeling that David had this same propensity to be a perfectionist, to flog himself for every wrong thought.  When David wrote Psalms 51, I think he probably felt as we do at times.  We too need to have God restore us to the joy of His salvation.  Let’s look at the words of David:

“Create in me a clean heart, oh God, and renew a right spirit within me.  Cast me not away from Thy presence, and take not thy Holy Spirit from me.  RESTORE unto me the JOY of thy salvation.  Then will I teach transgressors thy ways and sinners shall be converted unto thee.”

Psalm 51:11-13

Ahhhh.  I love that Psalm.  I meditate on it when I catch myself in the middle of flogging myself mentally.  I stop and remember these words and instead of beating myself up, go to God in prayer.  This helps to free us from the bondage we put ourselves under. God is the only one who can forgive our sins, and He is much greater and more powerful than you or I, and He willingly with gladness will give us grace in time of need if we’re repentant and our hearts are desiring to please Him.

Yes, the Passover is a solemn time, but it is also a joyous time.  He has given us eternal life willingly.  He didn’t have to.  He deeply desires to forgive us to give us hope and give us peace and joy.

Let’s look at the very Passover service Christ performed before He gave Himself on His own accord for us at His crucifixion.  He reminds us of the peace that He desires to give us.

Here are the some of the words that He wanted to leave with us right before his death…..

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world gives, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”  

“Ye have heard how I said unto you, I go away, and come again unto you. If ye loved me, ye would rejoice, because I said, I go unto the Father: for my Father is greater than I.”

~ John 14:27-28

Yes, the Father indeed greater and bigger than our capabilities and willingly gave His Son to be our intercessor. Our Father, the great and powerful Almighty God is willing and able to forgive….even when we can’t.  Let’s remember this during this Holy Day season.  It is a season of thankfulness, a season of praise to the great God who loves us so much and deeply desires a relationship with us.

Yes, when we can’t forgive ourselves.  Don’t worry.  God can.  Be joyful for His perpetual grace!

Grateful Woman

Prayer: “Thank you Father for the continual grace you bestow on your children.  I know that I’m imperfect, but you are perfect.  I thank You for willingly giving Your Son as a sacrifice that washes  us clean and takes our sin away from us as far as east is from the west.  Help us to truly come to believe that, and help us to embrace it. Help us to remember that you promise to give us peace, a peace that the world cannot know.  We stand on your promises, dear God.  Help this day to be a day of joy and peace because of the great sacrifice we have in your Son that we are especially reminded of this time of year.  Help us to hold that promise close to our hearts as we walk with you each and every day throughout the year. We thank you.  We love and praise you. In Jesus’ name, we pray.  Amen.”

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The Remarkable Women of the Bible ~ Chapter 3

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

Sarah ~ Advanced Steps In Faith

In chapter 3 of the The Remarkable Women of the Bible and Their Message For Your Life Today, we see Sarah’s faith increasing.  When we first are introduced to Sarah in God’s word, we only have eight words to describe who she was and that is “But Sarah was barren; she had no child.” (Genesis 11:30) She was 65 years old when the promises were given to Abraham and Sarai, her name before being changed to Sarah.  She was Abraham’s only wife.  I would like to add here that many of the patriarchs had more than one wife.  To be Abraham’s only wife at that age suggests to me that Abraham and Sarah had a special relationship, and even though she was barren, he was content with the love that she shared with him.  Abraham had been given the promises of God now, and subsequently God repeated the promises throughout until God opened her womb.  This was taxing on Sarah, as it would be on anyone who was infertile and desired desperately to have children for her husband whom she loved dearly.

Being barren in Sarah’s day had a huge stigma, that of not giving to your husband a son to pass on the family inheritance.

Just think how you would have felt if you were her, being reminded month after month that God had closed your womb.

“Perhaps Sarah wondered, ‘What has gone wrong? What have I done? Why hasn’t God blessed me with children?’ On and on Sarah’s questioning may have gone…and on and on went her pain.  Nothing could relieve it, soothe it, or take it away. It was a stigma in Sarah’s day, and by all indications in the Bible, it was a stigma that seared itself more deeply into Sarah’s soul with each childless sunrise.”

Dear Reader, you and I have the advantage of reading ahead in the Bible to find out how Sarah handled an ongoing problem.  pg 33, 34

Then God revealed to Abraham the promises that he was to be the father of many peoples that were too innumerable to be counted, as many as the sands on the sea.  How excited Sarah must have been at first! Even though she was barren and was Abraham’s only wife, she was to have children now! She had faith at 65 years old, at 66, at 67, at 68, at 69 all the way until she was 75 years old.  I ask you, did Sarah have faith? Did she lapse in faith when she determined God had restrained her from having children? It’s up to us to decide, but I truly believe that she had convinced herself because of God’s silence and her unfruitfulness, that an heir may come a different way.  Did she become impatient? Perhaps, but it may have come from not a conniving heart but one that truly wanted to see her husband succeed.

What can we learn from Sarah as she was waiting for those ten long years? How can we have confidence in God in our own tests of faith:

“Which area of your life, dear woman of faith, calls for you to continue to believe and to choose to exercise your faith today? Is it a physical problem like Sarah’s was? A family problem like Sarah’s was? A personal struggle? A financial test?  Does there seem to be no rhyme or reason to the circumstances, no end in sight, no solution to the predicament?  Don’t give in. Choose to wield your faith one more time! Stretch it! Strain it! Grow it! Trust in God, because “there has not failed one word of all his good promise.'” (I Kings 8:56) pg 36

We also want to be sure that our plans coincide with God’s word.  We may think we have the solution.  We can get things done quicker our way we think, and its okay.  There’s nothing evil about it.  It will work, won’t it? Sometimes we can convince ourselves that as a Christian woman we can take matters into our own hands.  We do not see Sarah, beseeching God for a solution.  She may have believed the promises, yes, but she took matters into her own hands to fulfill.

Here is the conversation that Sarai had with Abraham after ten long years of waiting:

 “And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.”

~ Genesis 16:2

Many will point to Sarah’s giving of her Egyptian handmaiden Hagar to her husband to wife as Sarah’s faithlessness.  My dear ones, that was ten years after the promise was given to Abraham.  She is now 75 years old and has no child.  In the promise of God to Abraham, Sarah is not mentioned as the one who would bear Abraham a son.  At that time it was not stipulated that she would be the one, and all the circumstances pointed to her continued barrenness.  Yes, she took matters into her own hands, and the results are still felt today with conflicts in the Middle East; but for now, I would like you to consider the woman Sarai.  If any of you suffer with infertility, you know the pain that one goes through each month, but in Sarah’s case it was each year for ten long agonizing years after the promise.

Again, I see Sarah as one who was faithful for ten years and then her human reasoning came into play.  She was 75 years old when she suggested to Abraham to take Hagar her handmaiden to wife to bear a son for him, which was a common custom in the ancient East, and she thought perhaps God had other plans for Abraham, to continue his line of descendants. It was a common practice for those who were barren to give their husband to their servant, handmaiden to bear a child for them when they were unable to conceive. I must mention here that polygamy was never what God intended from the beginning, and it seems that every instance of Biblical polygamy has turned out to be problematic at best.

Sarah Gives Hagar To Abraham To Wife

We have to remember Sarah truly “believed” the promises of God.  She did not know, however, how God was going to perform it, since it seemingly was not to be from her body. She gave up her one-on-one relationship with her husband of 75 years to give Abraham an opportunity to have a son, so that the promises of God would be fulfilled.  If she had not believed the promises, she would have not given up her precious Abraham for someone else to share his love, so that, in her mind, the promises would be fulfilled.  I have been married 36 years to a faithful husband.  I can’t even imagine giving my husband to a second wife for him to have children and children’s children.

Was it Sarah’s sacrifice for her husband’s success that was in her heart? We cannot know for certain. We can look back and see that it was not in God’s plan. Sarai didn’t know for certain it would be her.  “This may be why God has closed my womb,” she could have thought. “It may be that another will bear him a son” since the promise was that a son be born through his own body.  God said nothing of Sarai particularly being the one — at least not yet.  The Proverbs 31 woman’s heart is that her husband be known in the gates.  Abraham was known as a “prince” among his tribe and the neighboring tribes. Could she have truly believed God had closed her womb and that perhaps it was going to come by other means, seeing she was not specifically mentioned as the one who should bare Abraham a son?

“Now Sarai Abram’s wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.  And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.”

~ Genesis 16:1-3

Another note to mention hear is that Abraham listens to Sarah’s request.  Sarai doesn’t demand it of Abraham, she asks him, and he seemingly quickly responded with a positive affirmation. Is it a lack of faith on Abraham’s part?  If Sarah had a lack of faith, then Abraham would be guilty also. Abraham is known as the father of the faithful, even though he agreed with the plan.  We all make mistakes, dear ones, but God is merciful and patient.

Ishmael was approximately 14 years of age when the messengers of God came to restate the promises to Abraham, but this time it was different.  The angel specifically mentions Sarai as being the mother of Abraham’s descendant and, in fact, it was at that time that her name was changed from Sarai to Sarah.  It was now 24 years after the promise was originally made to Abraham and Sarah!  We all know the story.  Sarah was in the back of the tent when she heard the angel speak of her being the one! She laughed within herself:

“Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?”

~ Genesis 18:12

Sarah Hears Promise of Son

Again, we can quickly point out that, “No, how can the Bible say that she had strength to conceive because she found God faithful when she laughed?”  But did you know that Abraham laughed as well?

“Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart, Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred 
years old? and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?”

~ Genesis 17:17

If Sarah judged God faithful, then God’s word is true.  The two of them may have been laughing for joy.  They couldn’t believe what they were hearing.  The angel heard Sarah, and spoke to Abraham and said to Abraham:

“And the LORD said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old?”

“Is any thing too hard for the LORD? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son.”

~ Genesis 13-14

“Could this be true? I can’t believe it!” She said, “Shall I find pleasure (joy)?”

Is anything too hard for God?

This could be a statement of sheer joy and amazement. Could it be possible that she would finally experience the joy of having a child? Yes, her son was named Isaac, his name meaning in Hebrew “laughter.” Abraham called Isaac this because of what Sarah had done when she heard the direct promise of her bearing a son at 90 years old!

“And Abraham called the name of his son that was born unto him, whom Sarah bare to him, Isaac.”

“And Sarah said, “God hath made me to laugh, so that all that hear will laugh with me.”

Genesis 21:3, 6

Does that mean that when people see Isaac born to a 90-year-old woman that she would appear faithless? I doubt that.  I think it could be that they will laugh with joy at the possibility that God can do something that we cannot do ourselves, the impossible! The Hebrew word in Genesis 21:6 can also have the definition of “laughing with merriment.”

The last quote I’d like to share is from the book page 39, “Is anything too hard for God?”

“Is this day of your life too hard for the Lord?

Is the physical difficulty you are bearing too hard for the Lord?

Is the heartache you suffer too hard for the Lord?

Is the problem in your marriage too hard for the Lord?

Is your financial condition too hard for the Lord?

Is the path you are on too hard for the Lord?”

Here is what the author gives us for Sarah’s message for our life today:

 “Sarah had learned to follow her husband.  Sarah completed faith 101 when she learned to trust and follow her Abraham as he followed after God. (Genesis 12:1) True, her life was radical moves and difficult change, but she accepted her lifestyle as God’s will and her husband as God’s instrument in her life.”

“Sarah had learned to trust the Lord – Sarah almost failed the course, but by God’s grace her faith held up to the finger-nail scraping edge while she huddled alone with her fears — and faith — in Pharaoh’s harem.  As she walked out of her hostage situation, amazing at God’s miraculous solution (Genesis 12:15-30), Sarah’s score on this exam of faith soared.”

“Sarah had learned the importance of having a gentle and quiet spirit — Yes, her name Sarah carried the connotation of “contention,” as well as the meaning of “princess.”  (and she had certainly been contentious with her maid Hagar, another story in itself — see Genesis 16).  What a painful time of learning!  How thankful she was to now be adorning herself regularly with the gentle and quiet spirit that pleases God.” (I Peter 3:4-5)” pg 40-41

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Rubies ~ Are We Willing To Take The Pressure?

Virtuous Woman Proverbs 31:10

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” ~ Proverbs 31:10

At times, do trials seem to increase right before Passover season? This seems to be a constant theme for many people as this season approaches.  It would seem Satan does not appreciate this holyday, as it pictures Christ’s sacrifice, and he being defeated.  Christ now gives us the power over death, as we will be resurrected and become spirit-born children of God at His return.

“Forasmuch then as the children are partakers of flesh and blood, He also himself likewise took part of the same; that through death He might destroy him that had the power of death, that is, the devil.”

~ Hebrews 2:14

Hebrew scholars have correlated the New Testament Passover services with the betrothal of Christ to the church.  Satan knows this, and this season, I believe, reminds him that in the end Christ wins, we are victorious, and he is utterly defeated.   He does not want us at Christ’s wedding supper at His return.

As we see in Revelation, it speaks of Satan going after the church because Satan is angry because he has very little time left, but once again, our Savior steps in and protects His people, His bride. (Revelation 12)

What does this have to do with the Proverbs 31 woman?  The Lord says:

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”

~ Proverbs 31:10

If we are striving to live the Proverbs 31 mandate, you can be sure that Satan is going to come out and try to attack those attributes to bring us down in our walk with God; but, “greater is He that is in us then he that is in the world.”

“You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.”

~ 1 John 4:4

1 John 4:4

We need to be on guard and vigilant, watching those areas with prayer and thankfulness because we have our Captain, Jesus Christ our Betrothed that goes before us.  With His help, we can look at those characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman and strive, especially now with zeal to live them each and everyday and God will bless us and our families because of our faith and trust in Him. He has shown His faithfulness to us time and time again, and we need to remind ourselves of His constant care when trials beset us.

But what do trials have to do with rubies?

Because God compares the Proverbs 31 woman to rubies, I would like share what this precious gem has to do with some of the heavy trials we face at times in our lives and how God is forming in us beautiful spiritual qualities.

“Diamonds may get all the attention, but rubies and sapphires are the first choice of kings and the affluent because of their extreme rarity. Only special conditions, initiated by the Flood, could have produced these rare beauties.” 1

…but those little gems have had to go through a considerable amount of heat and pressure to form…then be cut and polished to appear in jewelry or be a part of Aaron’s breastplate of judgement.

“Rubies are formed beneath severe heat as well as pressure in the Earth’s crust. The elevated pressure as well as the temperature roots the elements accountable for the formation of rubies to become molten.” 1

Similarly, sometimes in our lives we feel as if we just can’t take the pressure, take the heat? There may be circumstances that are out of our control or trials that have gone on for extended periods of time.  We may become weary and burdened and wonder where God is in all of it, and perhaps even want to give up.  “Lord, it’s just not worth it,” you may ponder if the burden becomes too heavy to bear.  As stated above, rubies, like diamonds are created under intense heat and pressure deep inside the earth.  God also uses our trials to create these masterpieces, precious gems, that will eventually be mined, polished, and treasured.

If we, however, are willing to endure, to consciously make a determined effort…a choice to accept God’s sovereignty in our lives, and to lean on Him, the burden seems so much lighter and easier to bear.

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations, knowing this, that the trying of your faith works patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.”

~ James 1:2-4

There have been many women in the Bible who have gone before us, determining that they were “willing” to endure, giving them a vision….that of becoming beautiful rubies. The Proverbs 31 women exhibited the Godly character traits we need to work on throughout our lives, and especially during trials if we are to be formed into this rare gem. It isn’t  easy to do, but it is necessary in the process to create  such a beautiful gem.

Proverbs 31 Woman

This we know for certain, if we allow God to manifest His workmanship in us now during this lifetime, we will used by God in His soon coming Kingdom to serve others, be a crown to our husband (Proverbs 12:4), and a blessing to our children.  (Proverbs 31:28)

Are we willing to take the pressure now?

It’s our choice.

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1 http://www.answersingenesis.org/articles/am/v5/n2/rubies

2 http://www.ask.com/question/how-are-rubies-formed

The Remarkable Women of the Bible Book Study ~ Chapter 2

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

Sarah – Remarkable Faith

This extraordinary woman of faith in chapter Hebrews 11:11, Sarah, can be perplexing with the different viewpoints that are presented to us in books and sermons and as we read the many accounts in the Bible.  She, indeed according to God’s word, is held up as our spiritual mother if we are respectful to our own husbands as she was to her Abraham, “calling him lord,” a term of respect and honor.

“As Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.”

~ I Peter 3:6

This is brought home even further in Ephesians:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

~ Ephesians 5:22-34

I’d like to insert the following verse for later use in our discussions of Sarah and Abraham’s relationship:

“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God”

~ Ephesians 5:22

She not only is faithful to her husband but is also held up Biblically as a woman of Godly faith, in Hebrews 11:11:

“Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, because she judged him faithful who had promised.”

As I read this chapter of The Remarkable Women of the Bible, it caused me to dig deeper into her life.  The author not only takes chapter 2 to discuss Sarah’s faith but also chapters 3 and 4.  Sarah’s faith was progressive, and it took the author two more chapters to explain it! As I said, there are many differing conclusions as to the true nature of Sarah’s life, and it was no different with this book study.  I would like to point some things with which I agree with the author.

Sarah And Abraham Nomads

Her Journey

We first encounter Sarah’s budding faith when she willingly follows her husband’s charge to leave her homeland and become a tent dweller. Abraham’s vision from God foretold the promise of Abraham to become the father of many nations.  Yes, according to God’s vision, he was to gather up all he had and leave his homeland of Ur, situated on the lush banks of the Euphrates River.  I have to insert here that Ur was no small village, but a teaming, affluent city, second in commerce only to Egypt at the time.  They probably had a very comfortable life in Ur.  Abraham had many cattle, servants, and possessions.  He was no pauper.  He and Sarah were very prosperous indeed.

Just imagine your husband coming to you one day after work and telling you that he had a vision from God. You are to gather up everything you have and leave your family, friends, and neighbors, to become tent dwellers.  Many women today would suggest to their husbands that he had better see a therapist before they would give in to such a dramatic change of lifestyle just because of a dream.  The Bible is silent on her response to Abraham.

Many think this because in that day, men were in authority and women subservient, she just went along.  I think differently, however, because the Bible holds up Sarah and Abraham’s relationship as a type of relationship that was an example for us to follow.   The fact that Sarah is very outspoken on other issues and consults with Abraham on many important occasions tells me that Sarah’s silence means that she agreed without doubting that God truly came to Abraham in a vision and that she willingly went along with Abraham in his walk with God to help him fulfill God’s promise for them. (1 Peter: 3-4)

It turned out that Sarah’s minuscule seed of faith budded when they went out from Ur of the Chaldeans. (Genesis 11:31) Possibly with pain in her heart and tears in her eyes, Sarah reacted to God’s instructions regarding marriage.  ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’ (Genesis 2:24)

As always obedience to God boiled down to a faith issue.  However it happened, our Sarah took an important step in faith, and that faith grew and ultimately earned her a place of honor in God’s Hall of Faith. Are you wondering and praying, ‘How can I begin taking the steps Sarah took to develop greater faith?

Try these important first steps today:

Turn away from the pleasures of this world, “Do not love the world or the things of this world.” (John 2:15).

Turn to the unknown, the unseen, the eternal with the heart of faith – “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” (Corinthians 2:5-7) pg 24

Famine

Famine

Most women won’t face a literal famine in their lifetimes as Sarah did in hers, but most will face some kind of trial, a lack of a different kind in their life that causes them pain.  We need to take the problem to God and put total trust in Him. Let’s look at Sarah encounter with literal famine in her journey of faith.

“Oh the heartache! Will it ever go away? Perhaps these words darkened Sarah’s thoughts the day she followed her full-of-faith husband out of Ur. Ur had been Sarah’s home, her life, but God told Abraham to go to Canaan.  Leaving Ur may have been bad, but the land of Canaan was worse! It was 600 miles away from her beloved homeland .  Just when she was getting use to it, then a terrible famine struck, and it was time to move on again.  This time to Egypt, another 300 miles away! Surely, if they would have stayed in Ur, everything would be alright! Maybe Sarah had thoughts such as this.  We really don’t know.” pg 25

Because her thoughts are not recorded, personally I think because of the lack of response, again, she trusted and had faith in God’s promises.  When circumstances in our lives seem to worsen, do we lose heart, lose faith? We all need encouragement to look forward and not back during hard times.  In Chapter 2, the author gives us some of her thoughts concerning those times in our life when we lack something that is truly needed and we are in great distress over a continual trial that lacks a solution.

“Face forward: Real life happens in the present, and God’s blessings happen there and in the future too.

Accept your circumstances – The circumstances of life are one primary way God works in you and works out His will for you.

There “do all things without complaining and disputing.”  (Philippians 2:14)

Again, it isn’t recorded that she was crying or complaining to Abraham because of the mess they were in.  She is silent.

If your circumstances find you in God’s will, you will find God in all your circumstances.

Trust in the Lord – God will keep you in perfect peace when your mind is stayed on Him in full trust.  Isaiah 26:3)

Hope in the future – Hope in God is always the bright star the lights your path in any present darkness.” pg 25

Abraham Talking To Sarah About Talking to Pharaoh

Facing Fear

Sarah was an exceptionally beautiful woman even into her old age, as we shall see.  Many women pay exorbitant amounts for body reconstruction, cosmetics, etc., all in an effort to be as beautiful as we shall see Sarah was.  She was so remarkably beautiful that Abraham pondered it before their travels, that it might pose a problem with the kings or pharaohs  that they ran up against, because, “What if they see you because of your beauty and want you, and kill me to have you?” Abraham talked with Sarah and asked her if that situation arose, would show him kindness by telling them she was his sister?  This was actually a half-lie, as she was his father’s daughter, but not his mother’s.

Notice Abraham didn’t command her to do this, he asked her to save his life in this way.  This shows me there was a strong bond, friendship between Sarah and Abraham? Would you do this for your friend to save his life? The situation did unfold just as Abraham feared.  Their caravan did run up against the powerful Egyptian pharaoh, and he noticed Sarah’s remarkable beauty.  When Pharaoh asked Abraham who this woman was, he said it was his sister.  The Pharaoh therefore took her into his harem.  Again, Sarah is silent.

Was Abraham wrong in saying this was his sister? God doesn’t give us the answer in His word, but He did plague Pharaoh and his household.  Pharaoh did not deal harshly with Abraham as he came back to him asked him why he did not tell him that he was his wife, that he would have done evil taking her as his wife and would have lain with her.  Obviously the plagues were a sign from a powerful god thought Pharaoh. What was Sarah thinking while she waited in Pharaoh’s harem? She must have been afraid.  She had a good relationship with her husband.  What if Abraham’s caravan left without her?

“Surely Sarah wondered with fear, “What will happen to me?  Will Abraham go on without me?  Will I ever see him again? What will life be like as a member of a harem?”  We don’t know, because scripture is silent.  But don’t you hope the silence indicates Sarah’s faith as she sat in her harem-prison, faced her fears, and waited on the Lord?”

“Strength for today and hope for tomorrow are sometimes realized – by you and me as well as by Sarah – in the silent  patience of faith.” Pg 27

The author continues:

Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart. (Psalm 27:14)

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him. (Psalm 37:7) Truly my soul silently waits for God. (Psalm 62:1)

Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength.  (Isaiah 40:31)

It is good that one should hope and wait quietly.  (Lamentations 3:26)

Blessed is he who waits. (Daniel 12:12) pg 27

At the perfect moment when things looked the blackest, God made a miraculous appearance.  Although He was never seen, it was not forgotten. What a scene! What a rescue!

Abraham receives Sarah from Ambimilech

Trusting God Again and  Again

Now, wait, the same performance happened again, almost the same word for word, event.  Sarah was noticed for her beauty and taken 25 years later by another ruler (Exodus 20:9-11), almost word for word.  Again, God came to the rescue.  Again, her faith was perfected.  God seemed to be asking Sarah to to face her fears, and her faith once again toward Him and to, once again trust Him. After all, what had she learned those decades ago about trusting the Lord?  What are some of the great lessons that we must learn in the making of great faith?

Lesson 1:  Pray – “The righteous cry out and the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles.”  (Psalm 34:17)

Lesson 2:  Trust – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding” – or any one elses. (Proverbs 3:5)!

Lesson 3:  Believe “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not see.”  (Hebrews 1:11)

Lesson 4: Wait – “I waited patiently for the Lord: and He inclined His ear to me, and heard my cry.”  (Psalm 40:1) pgs 30-31

Sarah’s Message For Your Life Today

The author comments that some of Sarah’s trials were repeated time and time again.  She asks,

“As you enter your new day, is something in your life a “repeat” problem?  Are there daily difficulties you constantly fact?  Are there people who regularly let you down or fail to follow through?  Are there seemingly impossible hardships to be endured day after day?” pg 30

She asks us to look at a multi-faceted diamond.  This stone has to be repeatedly cut to bring out its beauty.  God can also use the trials that befall us to shape and build our trust in Him.  Remember, in your life you have a constant power available, a constant help in time of need, no matter how alone you feel, no matter what odds your face, no matter who has let you down or forsaken you, you are never alone for:

Above you are God’s overshadowing wings (Psalm 91:4) Beneath you are God’s everlasting arms. (Deuteronomy 33:27) Around you the angel of the Lord encamps on all sides to deliver you. (Psalm 34:7) Inside you God’s peace that passes all understanding guards your heart and mind. (Philippians 4:7) pgs 30-31

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To see chapter 1 of “The Remarkable Women of the Bible Book Study ~ Chapter 1” click here.

More articles and sermons on the life of Sarah:

Profiles of Faith:Sarah ~ A Story of Virtue

Hebrews 11 – Sarah’s Improbabilities

Sermon: Was There Faith in Sarah?

Psalms of A Woman

Disciples in the Storm

Captain of Our Salvation

 

Peter walked the boisterous sea

Just like my trials are to me

 

Amidst the waves of turbulent strife

Trials sometimes fill my life

 

And cause me oft to be afraid

To walk the path that Christ has laid

 

Because no strength I have in me

To calm the wind upon the sea

 

Then I begin to quickly drown

When trust in Him does not abound

 

I cry out to Him, the One that saves

The Christ Who’s voice can still the waves

 

Then stretching forth His hand to me

He saves me from the troubled sea

 

Why did you doubt, when I’m so near

Your faith in Me should cast out fear

 

And bring you through in death’s dark vale

When ‘board the ship that I set sail

 

As Captain I will be to you

Salvation’s end I’ll bring you to

 

Though troubles be of every kind

The answers through me you will find

 

Leading you by My right hand

To a more abundant promised land

 

Where treasures be forever more

Upon the wide and peaceful shore

 

Where storms of life will ever cease

The land where I’ll reign “Prince of Peace”

 

~ Diane Stewart January 1992

 

Matthew 8:23-27, 14:27-31

Mark 6:45-54

Jesus Walking On The Water

Be encouraged by our article Who’s in Your Boat?

“The Remarkable Women of the Bible” Book Study Chapter 1

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

“Eve – Remarkable Creation”

What first comes to your mind when you think on the creation of Eve? Does rebellion, deception, and an overall feeling of contempt for her because of her choice when it came to her disobedience to God’s command to not take to herself the fruit of the tree of The Knowledge of Good and Evil? I know it happens at times to me when I think of her. Her name brings to mind man’s contempt for God’s authority.  Yet, Eve was just as human as you and I.  Adam and Eve were created flesh and blood. In Romans 8:7, it speaks of the flesh that is not subject to the law of God; and neither indeed was she.

“Because the carnal (fleshly) mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.”

~ Romans 8:7

Adam and Eve were carnal.  They were made of flesh and blood, and so are we.

After Eve Ate The Apple

Would we have done any better? We scoff a bit at that question, but when I think about my temptations in life, sugar cravings, etc. it’s not so hard for me to fathom the pull she must have felt; after all, all of the trees were beautiful to the eye and had fruit to be desired and this one was also desired to make one wise, and it was situated conveniently right in the center of the garden. Also, she had the added trial of Satan right there egging her on. God knew the draw that Satan could possibly have on them.  That is why during God’s soon coming 1,000-year millennial reign, Satan will be bound; God knows the sway Satan has over us; and He willingly pardons our sins if we truly repent.

We do not know if Adam and Eve repented, but God had mercy, killing animals and using the skins to cover their nakedness (Revelation 3:17), which I believe to be their sin. Fig leaves would not do. It takes blood to cover sins. I believe this was a picture of Christ eventually coming to the earth and shedding His blood, reconciling men back to their God. But God  stated in the Old Testament that the blood of bulls and goats can never take away sin, only a promise of a better sacrifice, Jesus Christ could. (Hebrews 9:23-2).  Then, you might ask, why were they thrown out of the garden?  Simply put, without Christ’s sacrificial blood, the power of death wouldn’t have been defeated and there could be no eternal life. So, the tree of Life was made inaccessible to them.

Adam and Eve Cast Out Of The Garden

“And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.”

~ Genesis 3:15

According to the book The Remarkable Women of the Bible,in chapter 1 Eve was remarkable in the “firsts” in her role as the first woman to ever to walk the face of the planet.  She was the first person created to be a man’s perfect help-meet, the first wife, the first mother, etc. Only together could Adam have been complete, in the image of God, and not until both of them were created that God said His creation was VERY good! Notice in God’s word, all the creation days preceding this were proclaimed good, but on the day that Adam and Eve were created, it was “Very good!”

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them.”

~ Genesis 1:27

Eve Created From Adam's Rib

You as a woman are a unique creation.

“Accept your femininity — There’s no need to feel inferior, second-class or second-rate.  No, woman was God’s last, most beautiful creation.  It was only after God presented women that He proclaimed His creation was “very good.” (Genesis 1:31) Adam and Eve were alike, yet they were different from one another.  One was female (Genesis 1:27), yet together as well as individually they reflected God’s image and His glory!” pg 12

You can also reflect God’s glory when:

~ You give life through your physical efforts to care for others.

~ You share spiritual life by telling others about Jesus Christ and God the Father

~ You are the life of your home, bringing the sparkle of laughter and joy to other people.

~ You pass physical life on to your children.

~You can also help your children have the opportunity to come into God’s family by the gospel of Jesus Christ. pg 14

Women's Kindness And Caring

Not only was she the first in the many roles as stated above, including being given the name “Eve – the mother of ALL living,” she was the first to suffer loss, her son (Abel) murdered, first to have her son taken away from her (Cain).  Yet, there was hope, for unto her was given the first evangelistic vision, the coming Savior from the lineage of her womb. A Savior would be born into the world,  paving the way to reconciliation for all mankind. Indeed, she was remarkable!

~ First Lessons in Faith ~

Loss tears at the heart, and Eve certainly suffered many losses.  Just look at the list.  She had lost:

~ her perfect relationship with God (Genesis 3:8)

~ the bliss of sinless marriage (Genesis 3:12)

~ her lack of acquaintance with evil (Genesis 3:22)

~ her ideal home in the Garden of Eden

~ her son Abel

~ her son Cain (gone to a place of refuge) pg 16

Cain Slays Abel His Brother

Yet even through all the loss, the goodness of God shown through.  We can always hope in God! “Adam knew his wife again, and she bore a son and named him Seth, ‘For God has appointed another seed for me.” (Genesis 4:25)

The gift of Seth whose name means “appointed” surely refilled Eve’s empty heart and her equally empty barrel of hope.  Appointed by God, her Seth would not only bring hope to her sore heart, but he would be the one from whom God’s Son would come bringing bountiful and eternal hope to all mankind (See Luke 3:38) pg 16

Eve also was the mother of the first man, whose blood God considered righteous.  Was he one of the first prophets? The Bible does not say, but it does say in Matthew 23:

“Wherefore, behold, I send unto you prophets, and wise men, and scribes: and some of them ye shall kill and crucify; and some of them shall ye scourge in your synagogues, and persecute them from city to city.”

“That upon you may come all the righteous blood shed upon the earth, from the blood of righteous Abel unto the blood of Zacharias son of Barachias, whom ye slew between the temple and the altar.”

~ Matthew 23:34-35

Serving Elderly

~ Eve’s Message For Your Life Today ~

How do you handle your heartbreaking losses?  Rather than plunge into depression, discouragement, or hopelessness, place your God-given faith and confidence in these hope-filled realities:

God’s Faithfulness: “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

God’s Promises:  One of the over 8,000 promises in the Bible assures you that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. (Philippians 4:13)

God’s Goodness:  Your lack of hope can never negate God’s goodness.  (Psalms 30:5) For his anger endures but a moment; in his favor is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” (Proverbs 30:5)

Just as Adam was a reflection of God’s glory, Eve was as well, in His image created He them.  We can be a reflection of God’s glory as God transforms our minds into His spiritual reflection:

Resolve never to make a habit of criticizing or downgrading yourself but instead

Rejoice in your worth in God and your likeness to Him

 Rejoice that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)

Resolve to seek a deeper relationship with God and to

Rejoice that He is near to all who call upon Him (Psalm 145:18)

Resolve to walk by faith paths.  You may not understand and to

Rejoice in the promise of His nearness as He directs your way.

Resolve to live each day as a child of God through His son, Jesus Christ and to be a reflection of His glory, and

Rejoice that, as one of God’s chosen, your name is written in heaven. (Luke 10:20)!

Resolve to spend time communing with God on a daily basis through prayer and the study of His word, and

Rejoice in the strength that He gives, for each day and the hope that He offers for all your tomorrows!

Resolve to reflect His glory and, dear one,

Rejoice in His love. pg 18-19

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Chapter 2 – March 26

Coming Soon ~ Women’s Book Study

The Remarkable Women of the Bible

“The Remarkable Women of the Bible ~ And Their Message For Your Life Today”

by Elizabeth George.

  I’ve decided to do a women’s book study that I feel you will find both encouraging and motivating. There are 15 short chapters and a message for you and I as women of God that I think you will find edifying and thought provoking.  I will be posting the main focus of each chapter and my thoughts on each of the chapters each Wednesday, beginning March 29.  Let’s spring forward together and enrich our lives with the examples of courage, faith, and promise of some of the most unique women of the Bible.

From the introduction:

“If you are like me, your life resembles one long obstacle course.  Every day is filled with challenges of singleness, married life, and child raising. They know about going without, about loss, old age, death and dying.  All of the pain, sorrow, confusion, and the difficulties under the sun have touched their hearts; and now they live in God’s Word to instruct us as we cope with our lives today.”

“Beloved, these women are gifts of God to you and to me.  Whether or not you have a  mother or a friend or a mentor who is available, you have the remarkable women of the Bible.  Let them share with you.  Let them encourage you.  Let them counsel you.  Let them show you the best way – God’s way to handle everyday and every difficulty.” Pg 7-8

We will sit down together and discuss their remarkable stories just as we would sit together in your kitchen and let the Bible teach us the lessons that many young women may have never been taught while growing up, but God our Father is a living Father, and He is always available and our best instructor.

Here are the women we will be looking at:

Eve – Remarkable Creation

Sarah – Remarkable Faith

Rebekhah – Remarkable Journey

Jochebed – Remarkable Mother

Miriam – Remarkable Leader

Rahab – Remarkable Grace

Deborah – Remarkable Wisdom

Ruth and Naomi – Remarkable Devotion

Hannah – Remarkable Sacrifice

Esther – Remarkable Courage

Elizabeth – Remarkable Walk

Mary – Remarkable Life

Mary and Martha – Remarkable Love

Dorcus, Lydia, Priscilla, Phoebe – Remarkable Servants

I hope you can join us as we journey with them and find the hidden treasures God has had written down for our learning and instruction.

There is also a study guide to go along with this, “The Remarkable Women of the Bible Growth and Study Guide:  And Their Message for Your Life Today (Growth and Study Guides)”, but this isn’t necessary.

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For additional women’s edifying bible studies and articles from our church library, please click here.

The Manna From Heaven ~ Part 2

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We have seen in part one that God has given us His word to be nourished spiritually by.  It is truly the breakfast of champions, the manna from heaven.  Christ not only had the Bible written for us to understand but He actually gave us an example to follow in overcoming through utilizing this sharp two-edged sword.

“For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two=edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” ~ Hebrews 4:12

Hebrews 4:12 Two Edged Sword

Let’s look at the showdown between Christ and the devil in the wilderness, and see how powerful the words of the Bible are, so that we can take heart in the midst of our own trials and battles overcoming sin in our own lives by utilizing His words.

After Jesus was baptized by John the Baptist, immediately there came a voice from heaven “This is my Son, who I am well pleased.” (Matthew 3:16-17)

Wilderness of Judea

The showdown begins:

“Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.” ~ Matthew 4:1

Let’s notice Jesus was led into the wilderness.  The ancient Israelites were also led in the wilderness, but instead of partaking of the manna from heaven God provided, Jesus fasted 40 days and 40 nights (perhaps symbolizing the 40 years the Israelites traveled in the wilderness).  He did not eat physical food because this was to be a spiritual battle.  While He was in the desert, I’m certain that He was meditating on God’s word, he took of the spiritual manna from which He drew His strength.

Let’s look at what He used to overcome Satan:

Temptation 1:

“And when the tempter came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.”                             ~ Matthew 4:3

Christ’s Defence:

But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God. ~ Matthew 4:4

Strength from spiritual manna, God’s words, taken directly from the Old Testament Deuteronomy 8:3

Temptation 2:

 “Then the devil took him up into the holy city, and set him on a pinnacle of the temple, and said to him, If you are the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He will give his angels charge concerning you: and in their hands they shall bear you up, lest at any time you dash your foot against a stone.”  ~ Matthew 4:5-6

Christ’s Defence:

“Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.”  ~ Matthew 4:7

Strength from spiritual manna, God’s words, taken directly from the Old Testament Deuteronomy  6:16

Temptation 3:

“Again, the devil took him up into an exceeding high mountain, and showed him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them and said unto him, All these things will I give thee, if thou wilt fall down and worship me.”~ Matthew 4:8-9

Christ’s Defense:

“Then said Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.” ~ Matthew 4:10

Strength from spiritual manna, God’s words, taken directly from the Old Testament Deuteronomy 6:13.

So, we see here how important it is to continually be partaking of His word daily, as the model prayer states, “Give us this day our daily bread.” This daily bread is not only physical but most importantly spiritual.  Don’t neglect such a wonderful whole food that is readily available to strengthen our hearts and give us the weapons of warfare we so desperately need in these end-time days, when Satan is the god of this world.  If we read or listen to God’s word daily and apply it to our lives, we have a spiritual arsenal.  We indeed will begin our day with the breakfast of champions. This will give us the confidence we need to face life’s challenges.  When Christ returns, He too can say of us, “This is my daughter in whom I am well pleased.”

 PRAYER:  Father, as your daughters, we pray for your daily bread, not only physical but spiritual.  We desire to journey through our own wilderness to your Kingdom with confidence, knowing that Your Son is leading the way, even when things may be difficult.  He is ever ready to help in time of need, as He was the pillar of fire by night and the cloud by day; He also gave physical Israel in the Old Testament help and confidence.  We thank you that you have provided such a blessing in the printed word.  Help us to digest it and make it a part of our every thought, that we may be strengthened thereby.  We love You and ask this in Jesus name.  Amen

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 To read about our festival of the Days of Unleavened Bread, please click here.  To read more concerning God’s word, sharper than any two-edged sword, click here.  Have a blessed day! 

If you would like, you can read Part 1 of the “Manna of Heaven” here.

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Mothering Monday: Teaching Children to Talk

Reposted from my daughter’s blog Where My Treasure Is.

I believe that one of the most important things you can teach a child is how to talk to other people.

That may sound like a silly thing to say, but think back to the last time you stooped down and tried to talk to a child. Did the child listen to you? Did the child even look at you? Did the child answer your question or just run away? I do this a lot because I am interested in what children think about, but I am often unsuccessful in my attempts.

I’ve noticed that there are usually two main reasons why children will not look at me or talk to me when I attempt to start a conversation.

1. Shyness

2. Self-centeredness

Both of these “conditions” are natural for children and both can be improved upon with loving guidance. It’s our job as parents to help our children to grow in the area of communication if they struggle with either of these things.

Why is it important to teach a child how to communicate clearly with other people?

Good communication skills can…

…help a child to learn to care for the needs of others more than themselves.

…enable a child to express his ideas clearly and exchange them with other people.

…help a child to learn more in life by listening to other people’s ideas.

…give children the confidence they need to successful in life.

Dan and I have tried to be very intentional with teaching our children good communication skills from the very beginning. We have 4 naturally vocal children. However, even they have had to learn how to interact with others. It didn’t come naturally.

Below are some simple things that we focus on as we try to teach our our young children about good communication. As we teach these things, we are conscious to model them ourselves. When starting out, we go with our children when meeting new people. Sometimes we provide them with a small token to offer the other person (a drawing, a flower, etc.) to help break the ice a bit. As the children grow and these sills become more naural, they start to want to go off and use them on their own!

1. Look at the face of the person who is talking to you. This means that even if you’re walking past the person as they greet you, STOP and look at them.

2. Always offer a greeting in return. Of course, for a very shy child, you may have to have lower expectations, but for our family, we strive for a minimum of “hi” or “hello”.  We’ve had a couple of children who had a hard time with this when they were very young. We waited it out (even if it took several seconds or even a minute) until the child would say “hi” (or at least wave) from behind my skirt :)

3. If you see someone who looks lonely, approach them and offer a smile and a friendly “hello”.

4. When you go up to a new person for the first time, say “Hi, my name is______. What’s your name?”

5. Ask the person a question about himself. ”How are you doing today?”, “Have you ever been here before?”, “What is your favorite thing to eat here?” (at a restaurant), etc. I remember prompting my children to ask these kinds of questions even at a very young age (1 1/2 – 2  years) so that they would learn this very important part of communication. They really enjoy talking to people more when they get to hear other people’s stories and ideas. You really can’t go wrong in a conversation when you ask people about themselves. :)

6. Listen to what the other person has to say without thinking about what you are going to say next.

Learning good communication skills is a labor of love for others.

“Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
– Philippians 2:4

As my children grow in their ability to communicate with others, I try, as much as it possible, to let them answer for themselves when someone asks them a question, instead of stepping in and trying to answer for them. I believe that it is beneficial for children to formulate their own answers to questions such as “Why aren’t you in school today?”, “Are you excited for Santa to come?”, or “What are you going to do for the rest of the day after you’re done shopping?” If they get stuck on their answer and give me a quick, pleading glance of “Help!”, I’ll step in, of course. But I often let them try on their own first.

I’m not saying that my children are perfect communicators. I’m guessing that if you know our family personally, you would agree. However, I am a firm believer that character traits and habits can always use improvement. If we have a good reason behind our desire to help our children become better communicators, then we are more apt to try and help them grow in this area.

I don’t necessarily believe that you can make an extrovert out of an introvert. However, I do believe that by consistent teaching and encouragement, we can help our children to become considerate and confident in their dealings with others.

{For more Mothering Monday posts, click HERE.}

*This post was written by my daughter Anna.  Here is her blog WhereMyTreasureIs.wordpress.com

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